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Once I moved her to memory care after Dad died, that all stopped. They'd get her up at 7:30 a.m., bring her out to breakfast, then rotate her through all the activities they had all day. No activity lasted more than 30-45 minutes and she didn't actively participate in everything, but there were things to do, people to watch and listen to, and an area outside to sit and watch the birds.
She never took naps again, unless she dozed off for 15 minutes in her wheelchair. She took hours-long naps her entire life, but once she was engaged and not bored, she just didn't do it anymore. No anti-depression drugs were needed, because it wasn't depression.
I don't know what goes on in the mind of a dementia patient when they're left to their own devices, but I think it's just easier to sleep. It's virtually impossible for one person to keep a dementia patient engaged all the time, so I suggest getting him to a senior center that might have activities for him to do or hiring someone to come in and play mind stimulating games with him for a few hours a day. You can't do it all, plus deal with the house and meals and such.
[I agree that depression is a common consequence of stroke, and is common in vascular dementia, but there's nothing mentioned that suggests it's present at the moment. If it emerges, the OP will notice a falling off in appetite, motivation, engagement and mood.]
thank you for pointing this out.
With a routine like that, I'm not surprised he needs to sleep. Exercise and activity are great but over exertion is not. Let him rest whenever he wants to.
Sleeping a lot is a sign of decline and the number of hours sleeping will increase as he declines.
My Husband went from sleeping 12 hours around the time of his diagnosis (Alzheimer's and I suspect Vascular) to sleeping 20 to 23 hours the last 6 months of his life.
Get him involved in Adult Day care if there is one in your area.
There are "Dementia friendly" programs like Memory Café and some Senior Centers have programs for people with dementia and their caregivers.
Keeping him active and on a routine will do wonders. A routine helps prevent some of the agitation and anxiety that some experience.
Also, his diagnosis brings with it , as you know, many changes in his neurological functions and this includes fatigue and tiredness and sleeping. He will not have the same energy and drive and expectations of the day, that the other "healthier" members of the family have.
There are many other reasons why he may want to sleep more ; one may also include grief and distress recognizing as much as he is able the decline in his health.
Speak more with his physician about your observations for more specific input from the physician who will be able to best speak to your husband's condition and, the expectations one may have making this journey with him or anyone with his dementia illness.
Practice good self care for yourself and other family members.
You are important too. Maintaining your " normal" activities and lifestyle to the best ability that you can and, getting support for yourself ( perhaps via Dementia support groups, your clergy or other counseling) may also help you cope with the many changes your husband's illness brings.
Peace,
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