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Over time - she became 100% bedbound. Never gets out of bed. It's been almost a year that way... More strokes, more paralysis.
Wears pads/diapers which I have to change and clean her. I wash her, dress her, feed her, do everything for her. She can no longer sit up, either.
You can have his Doctor send out a Physical Therapist to your home. They will work with him and teach him leg exercises, etc. They can help him learn easier ways to get out of bed.
The end result if they are not able to get out of bed ... a Hoyer Lift has to be used to lift them up. And life gets much more complicated for everyone. Difficult if not impossible to get to a Doctor, requires much more assistance and supervision. Worries about skin shearing, bed sores etc. Endless worries, believe me. Much lifting, too.
I hope your husband continues to get up to go to the bathroom, because it is extremely difficult to take care of a bedbound person by yourself.
Please encourage him in any way possible to keep moving, keep sitting up, keep getting out of bed.
My Mom doesn't seem to be able to get any stronger and I'm losing hope day by day. Being bedbound for a long time causes much emotional and physical stress for all.
My husband who was completely bedridden was under hospice care in our home for the last 22 months of his life, so everyone's journey is different.
I would tell you just to make the most of whatever time you have left with him, and make sure that you're taking care of yourself as well, as I know firsthand, the toll that caregiving can take on you if you're not careful. So please be good to yourself.
You might try finding things of interest to him like large print paint by number, put together a model car, work on a large print puzzle, play Cards, Domino's or some other game, Crossword Puzzles.
Play music as music therapy is really good.
Once a Week,, Give a massage or hire someone to come in to give him a massage.
Once a month give him a manicure or hire someone to do it.
Tare him outside, even if it's in a wheelchair 20 minutes a day for Fresh Air and Sunshine.
Onice he has a little more energy, take him to the mall and push him around in a wheelchair and go eat and window shop.
Call his old friends and invite them over for lunch and to visit him
Maybe you could start by letting him sit up more in bed or buy a comfy Recliner for him to sit in during the day.
Then have him start getting out of bed and go to the table for his meals.
There us a true saying. Use it or loose it.
My husband (80s) announced four months ago that he was not getting out of bed, and he has stuck with his decision. Then two days ago he asked to talk with his doctor to restart physical therapy. He says he wants to get out of the bed!
Doctor has not returned calls yet & we are unsure if Medicare will pay for therapy since he refused it four months ago.
I will say this has been one of the most stressful, baffling, emotional, grueling, and labor intensive periods of my life.
Sorry. You don't need me to share my problem. Do know I am rooting and praying for you.
it sounds like he's lost any will and is depressed. What are your thoughts on that. We need more information.
1 - he will lose muscle mass
2 - his bones will het more brittle
3 - his body will acclimate to lying down so he will always have blood pressure issues when sitting up
4 - He is at major risk of developing pressure wounds - the worse those get, the more likely he will develop sepsis
5 - if he is mostly lying down, he at risk of developing pneumonia.
With his problems, it might be wise to talk to his doctor. He would probably benefit from going to rehab to help him become more mobile.
Since he's been bed bound for so long, there is a good bet his muscle strength is gone. People can be bedbound and still live, but as LavenderBear mentioned, they are totally dependent on others.
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