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I would bet you married a Narcissist. Are nicey, nicey until u said those vows and the real person came out. I had an Uncle like that. My Aunt left him after he broke her arm. His 3rd wife after 2 wks of marriage.
I agree, get yourself to a divorce lawyer. You owe this man nothing after 8 months of marriage.
That is the only route for an improvement for you and also for him, though nothing is guaranteed except he will get worse if things continue as they are.
Resources you can go to for help - AL-Anon, lawyer/legal aid, the police. your local Agency for Aging, Social Services, APS, woman's shelter, many places of faith offer help/counselling.
Please come back and let us know that you have reached out for help in your community and are acting to keep yourself safe. That is a priority. I know this is very hard. (((((hugs))) to you
And next time, don’t back off. Never underestimate an abuser. Next time they might kill you.
And please attend Al-Anon meetings so you can find and defend healthy boundaries for yourself and start to recover your life. I wish you all the best.
"...my current husband had what they called a brain bleed/stroke and he has always been verbally abusive to me but since october i actually had him put in jail because he threatend my life but then i dropped the charges because he was sick but its just getting worse by the day.please helphe even has all of my children and grandchildren hating me."
Why would you stay in a situation like this, dear lady?
Please see a divorce lawyer. Today.
AND talk to you doctor about finding a licensed social worker who can help you re-build your life.
Please come back and let us know how you are doing. We're rooting for you!
When someone you DON’T love loses the ability to communicate appropriately, you assess the consequences TO YOU of allowing him to behave in ways that can potentially distress or harm YOU, and base your decision making from that perspective.
Your decision.
Best of luck.
Just make sure that you're being very honest and upfront on what exactly you're dealing with, so they get the whole picture and not just part of it.
And if needed, a social worker can help you in getting him placed in the appropriate facility, after he detoxes of course, as most nursing facilities are not equipped to deal with that part of the equation.
You do NOT have to continue to put up with his abuse of any kind. And if things escalate, call 911 and have him arrested. The police can have him brought to the psych ward at the hospital, where he can receive the proper treatment for his drinking.
Please take care of yourself. You deserve so much better. I hope you know that.
God bless you.