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Check out the local care facilities before you speak with her, to see what is available. Then you both need to explain to his mother that you can't continue this schedule. If you feel guilty about quitting, find an excuse. Explain that you HAVE to stop and that you will be taking her to check out the facilities. Explain that she should prepare to move. Do not give in because you'll never get out of it.
This is really hard but stay strong. Good luck.
Have you considered looking for an Assisted Living Facility in a less remote area? Near one of her other children perhaps?
I am not a card sender. I try, but usually miss birthdays in the family. My husband of 37 yrs mentioned his Aunts birthday was coming up. I told him I don't send cards. The day of her birthday he asked if I called, in his defense he has an extreme hearing problem. I said no but...it was his Aunt. Really, I love the woman and she is like 5 min away but why is it thecwifevis responsible for everything. I have my own family that he Doesn't ask if I have sent a card. Just a habit I never got into. It seems like you think about it and then before you know it the month has gone by.
I had to move my Dad against his wishes but within 24 hours of the move, he thanked me. He no longer had any desire to ever go back to his house. He cried when I told him but thanked me after the move.
Good luck. It's never easy - I just laid it out in simple terms and said to him, "it is time."
Such a shame about her daughters not visiting, and yes it’s about time your hubby joined in. Things are how they are because of your giving spirit. Bless you for that, and it’s time to make a shift. Best wishes to her and to you. 🌷
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