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Your house, you let who u want in. Mom cannot decide who she wants or doesn't want to see, you do that for her. If afraid sister is going to try to get her meds, then put them where she can't get to them. I have a kitty jar in my hutch, if I had this problem, thats where I would put the meds. No one but hubby knows where out kitty jar is.
No letting her visit sister is not a good idea because people suffering with Dementia don't do well with change or unfamiliar places.
It doesn't seem as if you should trust sis at all.
You’re in control here, not your sister. Does mom live in your house?
Why would you want your mom to visit your sister?
You know that she is after your mom’s pain meds. Please don’t invite trouble into your mom’s life just because your sister wants your mom to visit.
Your profile states that your mom has dementia. She’s vulnerable. She isn’t able to see things objectively.
I cut off contact with my brother due to his substance abuse. I didn’t allow him to see mom in our home.
I knew that my mother would be susceptible to my brother’s requests for money. So, I didn’t place mom in a vulnerable situation.
Mom would have given him money had I not set these boundaries.
Is your mother asking to see your sister? If you are okay with these visits, meet her in a neutral location, such as a restaurant or coffee shop if you like. Don’t allow your sister to be alone with her.
Wishing you all the best.
You claim your sister won't help you with any of the
caregiving needs for your mother, yet you claim she's a drug addict that you need to protect your mother from.
So which story are you sticking with? You would do well to make sure your POA is active before you start making calls to the police and APS. If your mother isn't incapacitated from Alzheimer's/dementia she can very easily change her POA over to someone else. I have known this to happen.
If she wants to see your sister, then make that happen. Take some precautions like not allowing her to visit alone with your mother. Keep your mother's pain meds and cash on YOUR person at all times during the visit. Have a friend or family member be at your home when your sister is visiting and let her know beforehand that if she brings her husband with her, you will not let her in. If your sister gets up to go to the bathroom, you or someone else follows her.
So, if you don't want drama in your tipi don't create any and it sounds to me like you do.
Also contact your local Area Agency on Aging for more info and possible resources.
If I were you I'd not have your addict sister see your Mom in person. She can call her on the phone with the speaker on. As soon as she tries to ask your Mom for anything you remind her that you are legally responsible to protect her and then hang up. Don't answer any further calls from her. Tell your Mom the call dropped and you're not sure why.
Boundaries are important to know and defend.
You say that your sister wants your mother to come and visit her. But you claim that your mother has dementia, and you are her POA, and claim also that sister wants to take your mother's pain medications from her.
You can, if your are your mother's caregiver and POA, and if your mother is NOT COMPETENT legally to make a decision in her own behalf that is best for her safety, tell mother that she cannot visit anyone outside the home.
I would also call APS. It is not only illegal for sister to take Mom's medications, but dangerous and it is illegal. You and your mom should together speak with APS.
Ultimately, if you have proof of what you claim, you may need a stay away order or an order that allows only monitored visits from this sister. I worry, as overall she sounds a bit "dangerous".