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"Mom, I can't do this anymore."
"This" was rushing to her side for perceived emergencies. Affecting my job, my health and my marriage.
Mom argued with me. I was able to be empathetic, but resolute. That since SHE was the one with the needs, she was going to have to be the one who either moved, accepted outside health or suffered the consequences.
You need to find the strength to say "no" to your dad. And mean it.
Too bad
Either it gets delivered or he finds someone else to go out.
You have the upper hand here. He’s the one that will get hungry .
You can't haul groceries in for him anymore. So stop doing that.
Did you know that hunger can be a cure for asinine nonsense, stubbornness and ingrate, entitled behavior?
Try it. I'm telling you your father will come around to the idea of online grocery delivery if you refuse to go to the store for him.
My mother was very much like what your father sounds like. I cooked daily for her and all she did was complain. So the meals and shopping stopped and everything would stay stopped until she changed her attitude and behavior towards me.
She swallowed her pride when she got tired of living on old peanut butter and stale crackers.
Put your foot down with your father and he'll knock off the crap.
I feel sorry for him I guess, he is all alone since my mother passed in October.
I have to get a backbone this is harming me.
You said no but offered an alternative. A reasonable solution.
He got angry.
OK.
Keep this up.
Saying no to brats, even senior brats, is not just ok but needed.
As to Dad, well, saves you saying "Bye, Dad" doesn't it, Mary? When he hangs up, I mean.
My brother used to have a saying when I was a kid. I think it's still around. He used to say
"Good riddance to bad rubbish". I just remembered that one.
One thing we know about good old dad. He will get hold of you when he wants you, won't he?
Guess he just isn't hungry enough. Or has a good pizza delivery company. I recall other instances of the folks telling you to LEAVE THEM ALONE. Maybe just do that. I don't think they deserve you.
He can refuse to have groceries delivered, and he will not get groceries.
When he complains about not having groceries, remind him that it’s his fault. He chose not to accept your offer. Oh well.
He is a self-centered bully, don't play his sick game.
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