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I heard a male resident the other day. he stated he was looking for his brother because the brother owed him money.
I know it would be embarrassing to be accused. but facility should be used to that.
you have to be ready to squirm out of situations. after sometime, you will be a pro!
I still catch myself trying to reason with my mom. sometimes I just stop, and say lets go for a walk! (even if person in wheelchair, if youre able to push)
if we just sit in her AL room then all kinds of uncomfortable conversations start to come up. now my moms train of thought is so broken, its gotten easier to change the subject.
at first I felt so bad telling "lies". its very unnatural to look parent in the eyes and say something untruthful.
Therapeutic fibs are still the way to go.
Focus on the non-financial aspects of the situation. He needs to get his strength back so he can walk again before he can leave the center. Then you can look at his finances.
Or get into his fantasy. "Let's make the plans first, and leave your money earning interest until you are ready." Can he see well enough to view enlarged screen pictures? Maybe you can view various kinds of boats online and discuss which would suit him. And then perhaps come up with some rough costs of what it would take to build one like that. Or research with him what kind of permits he would need. Or figure out where he could rent space for the building project. You're not turning him down, and you are sharing his interest, but you are not handing over non-existent money!
If he changes his mind to, say, restoring an old mill or church or something to live in, get into it with him and research all the details. Where is the nearest old building that might be suitable, etc.
With limited vision and hearing, these kinds of discussions will be challenging, but no more difficult that try to explain his financial situation, and a lot more fun.
It will do him good to be taken seriously.
Finances should not be a subject that’s discussed with him. He should not have access to his checkbook or bills. He won’t understand what he’s seeing or reading. If he asks, tell him everything is fine. His money is fine and no one has stolen it. If he’s been told he’s going on Medicaid because he doesn’t have any money, he will obsess about it and become very stressed. Use the Therapuetic Fib and tell him his money is fine. Redirect the conversation to something else.