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For interest, this is a controversial issue, and some places have rules to permit ‘consensual rights’. The same issues arise in facilities for young people with Downs syndrome or other mental issues. These days residential facilities often give sex workers access for people with spinal defects, no matter what the Board thinks!
Many many old people regret having no-one to cuddle – one reason that grandchildren are so welcome. You could try to see if management could encourage a session with safe pets to touch. A spoonful in the mouth at dinnertime is not the only contact I want to end my own life!
Too bad the activities don't include a daily game of spin the bottle like we played as young teenagers. Hey, there's an idea........
Best wishes to you and your dad.
But if there are rules in place they have to be followed.
With my Mom, who suffered from Dementia, she disliked men. So no worries there.
I think the AL staff is just jealous of them ;). So they separated them.
And quite honestly what harm is there in sleeping in a women's room or even kissing a woman if it's consensual at his age? I mean really.
Let the poor man live and enjoy whatever time he may have left on this earth. He's not hurting anyone.
Perhaps you need to move him to a facility that is not quite so strict.
He's just wanting a lady friend and what is so wrong about that? If he didn't have dementia and found a lady friend that he wanted to spend time with and kiss and hold hands with, and even sleep in her apartment, would it bother you then too?
I would hope not. Your dad just wants to be loved by someone of the opposite sex. I don't think that feeling ever goes away. At least I hope it doesn't.
I know that this is a tricky subject and has been on this forum before. And because dementia is involved it makes it even trickier.
My thought being a Christian too, that if it's consensual, there is absolutely no harm in him kissing someone or spending the night in someone's apartment as we don't know what if anything even went on in there. I mean your dad is single and he is just wanting to mingle.
It would be a different story if he was forcing himself on these women, but it doesn't sound like he is, so let him enjoy it while he can as there will come a time when his disease will have progressed to the point where he more than likely won't even be able to get out of bed.
I know that children have a hard time thinking about their parents being sexual beings, but guess what.... they/we are.