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Great suggestions from the above posters.
It sounds like you've read up on Alzheimer's and the "levels or stages" and what to expect.
With my mom, stage 4 was the last stage that she could be alone. By mid stage 5, she was doing things that put her in danger; going down to breakfast at 3am, hiding the telephone in the sheets in the closet, confusing vitamins for Tylenol, etc. It was then that I had to take everything away (check book, credit cards, razors, tv remote, medications, etc.)
Stage 5 is when I really had to have an eagle eye on her. She lived in a senior residence with meals and transportation provided. One day two of the other residents,who were also slightly demented, took her to her doctor and got narcotics for her headaches!!!! Then she really got confused. I quickly got POA. Then no one could do anything for her but me. Demented people can be really sneaky!
When I saw she was no longer bathing or changing her clothes (I did her laundry), that was it. I placed her in a memory care facility within 3 weeks.
What I hate to have to say is that his disease will only get worse. And his level of confusion can escalate quickly.
Please prepare yourself for the inevitable now. Research if Medicaid would be available to him, visit some memory facilities in your area, get his finances in check, if he can't afford care, start signing him up for Medicaid or Medi-Cal (in California). Try to get this out of the way so you can have a seamless transition when the time comes. You'll be surprised how fast it can creep up on you. I was in denial and had nothing prepared. I visited facilities and had her moved in within 2 weeks because the next phase was wandering.
Senior Centers are a great resource for info. Also, our library has a thick booklet behind the counter on anything a senior would need...housing,
transportation, medical, etc. The book is free.
Non medical home aides (from a home care service) run about $22.00/hr. here in Southern California. The cost is NOT covered by Medicare.
Good luck as you continue with him on his journey.
Good luck and hang in there!
I went through an professional caregiver Agency mainly because my Dad would have many choices of caregivers to see who would be the right match for him. He choose 2 caregivers he really enjoyed having them help him [one was weekdays, and other weekends].
The caregivers both had similar childhoods as my Dad, and a lot of common, thus Dad could tell his "stories" and they could relate. And the two caregivers understood Dad's sense of humor. I always heard a lot of laughter when ever I went over to visit my Dad :) The caregivers worked 8 hours a day, starting at 7 a.m. Then came in the evening shift and later the night shift, my Dad wasn't fussy as he was pretty tired by then.
My Dad didn't know how to cook or do laundry, plus he was a fall risk even with his rolling walker. He needed help with showers, it took some times for him to get use to the caregivers helping him take a bath as Dad was quite shy.
Oh when an elder who has memory loss say they want to go home, home would be their "childhood home", back when life was fun and simpler being a child.