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I then asked my Dad if he had quit his career to take care of his parents? Of course, I knew the answer was "no". Dad never asked me again.
If you are currently working, do not leave your employment. Depending on what is your career, you would lose not only a steady paycheck, but probably company paid options.
You will need a job and savings for your own support.
Your parents may need to avail themselves of Medicaid or other governmental programs.
You cannot manage their lives.
Usually it is enough to manage our OWN lives.
Our children are not our long-term care insurance. They are our future, our joy, and the life that will go on when we cannot. That is your obligation to them: to let them be proud of you and share all of the good things in your life.
It was well intentioned. Yet was a short term fix for long term problems.
Stroke brought permanent big changes - yet it took much time to start to accept that permanent big changes must be made.
I am not sure what changed for your Dad, why you have become his caregiver. But this is a common problem that effects families. Someone cannot afford to stop paid work for the real but unpaid work of a caregiver.
A wider team than family is often needed.
Have a social worker come and do a needs assessment and see if he may be a candidate for Medicaid.
You need to work in an actual job/career so that your senior years aren't a trainwreck.
Here is a link to the Area Agency on Aging in Fresno County which might have other info and resources that could be helpful:
https://fmaaa.org/
Hope you find some help with your Dad.
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