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Is is it possible that caring for your Mom has gotten harder? It is tougher to keep things picked up?
A messy house can also be hazardous and unhealthy.
Be grateful that your mom is her first priority.
Relax, you sound like an intelligent person who genuinely cares about her mom and if something was being not done that was important you probably would have already said something to her.
And is this someone you hired through an agency or private?
In either case day 1 there should have been a discussion as to what you expect and what the caregiver expects.
If through an agency you need to contact them and let them know.
If you hired them privately you need to have a discussion and go over what expectations are.
In any case tell the agency, tell the caregiver that you are pleased with how she treats mom, and anything else that she is doing correctly. But ...then explain what the problems are. Give her a chance to correct the problems but if they continue you will have to find someone else.
The object of getting a caregiver is to make your life and your moms life easier and less stressful not more difficult.
My Mom has had slobs taking care of her (they had to go) and she had one that kept the place absolutely spic & span but was a tyrant to the other caregivers (she had to go also)! If this person is really great with your mom, and the mess she leaves is simple, just nicely talk to her & let her know you expect a little more neatness. My mom had full time care for 3 years, and we never had the “perfect” caregiver, you learn what you’re willing to put up with & what you’re not. I was satisfied with mom being clean, happy, & well looked after with a little bit of messiness on the side.
Is this your home? Ask her what she feels her duties are? Maybe she feels caring for Mom is it, Dirty dishes are your problem. If this is how she feels, then ask if she could at least rinse them and put in the sink or in the dishwasher. If its getting Mom a meal, ask that she at least put things back where she found them and wipe down the counter. It is ant season.
We had a client complain that a homecare aid she had for her husband would not do dishes (that client left) or vacuum. So my Dept head called the Homecare. She found out that if the husband lived on his own, aides do some light cleaning like dishes, vacuuming and laundry but if there is another person in the home capable, their job is just to care for the client.
Everyone is different on how they keep their environment. Example, my sig other eats like a 5 year old, crumbs all over the sofa and on the rug in front of the sofa... [sigh]. He has wonderful qualities that override his mess.
Thus, the next caregiver could be super neat but not near as good with helping your Mom.
Try to overlook the mess, you don't want to come across as acting like her own Mom.