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Apart from your brother, does she have visitors? Is it only you who is excluded, or is your brother keeping everyone away?
The reason I ask is that if nobody is able to visit her it begins to look like isolation, and APS might give you a sympathetic ear.
But you see: one person's "old grudge" might be another person's "constitutes a risk to mother's wellbeing." If your visiting would lead to conflict or disputes that could be distressing for your mother then your wanting to see her isn't a good enough reason.
It all boils down to deciding what is in mother's best interests, and at the moment your brother does get to decide that. If the difficulty is *only* between you and him, though, and you can visit your mother without his being present or involved, and your mother is in a fit state physically and mentally to cope with your visit, then you can ask for support in being allowed to visit her.
How sure are you about your brother's reasoning? I assume he hasn't said "you're not allowed to visit her because you really pissed me off ten years ago." So what reasons does he give? If he says she's too ill or too weak or would get upset, it might be better to accept what he says and see if you can think of something else to do for her.
Your brother does not have a POA "over" Mom. He was assigned by Mom. If she is competent, she can revolk that assignment.
Shortly before my father died my brother decided to move back to the area. He showed up at AL where mom was still living - it was late and he decided to spend the night but for some reason ended up sleeping on the floor of the all purpose room and caused a kerfuffle the next morning when someone on the staff happened upon him.
Now my brother at the best of times has mental health issues, however at this time he was even worse to the point he could have been helped by being an inpatient. Anyway, mom and I both told the staff he was not allowed in the facility after the front doors were locked. I also requested that if he came to visit that they check in and make sure everything was going fine. - As far as I know he's never been a threat anyone - just very irresponsible and mentally ill but wanted to be sure everything was still ok.