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taking care of it".
If this does not work for one reason or another you could:
Get her doctor to send the proper form to the Secretary of State (DMV) and indicate that her license should be revoked. Some doctors are hesitant to do this for some odd reason.
I am wondering have each of the "fender benders" been reported?
I am thinking her insurance has got to be very high.
It is not the responsibility of the mechanics to make sure she does not continue to drive.
Who, if anyone is her POA? That is the person that should put their foot down and say enough is enough.
Next, you make another therapeuric fib about why the car has been removed: the shop did needs to finish doing something, they forgot to do x, they found a big problem in the transmission and needed it back... whatever. Also DO tell the owner about the situation so that he doesn't waste his time helping her for no reason.
Next, report her as a dangerous driver either in person or online at her state's DMV. They will need as much info about her (name, address, DL #, etc. and incidents as proofs). They will most likely send her a letter telling her to come in for a test (depends on the state). Don't let her see the letter and do not take her for this test. Let her license expire. Cancel her car insurance. Make up for her lack of driving somehow but NOT on public transportation (no public bus, taxi, Uber, etc.). She will need to rely on rides from trusted sources like friends, neighbors, relatives, paid companion aids (like from Care.com or an agency). Do tell her neighbors and friends to NEVER lend their car to her if she asks.
She will be upset, even angry. It doesn't matter. A car driven by the wrong person is a weapon that maims and kills people. Your MIL has the beginnings of dementia. Dementia robs people of their reason and logic and empathy for others, that's why you are wasting your breath trying to "reason" her out of driving. It won't happen. Just read the dozens and dozens of (recent!) posts on this topic. I've had to go through it with 3 seniors and now my own Mom as well. It won't feel good but it must happen. ASAP. I wish you all the best as you navigate helping your MIL to stay safe.