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So many of the "tranquilizers" as my mother calls them have nasty side effects of constipation as well as risk for falls. CBD does not, at least as far as I can tell.
Sleep problems come with age for most elders. I would have a chat with your mother's PCP and figure out a medication to try to help her with the anxiety, first and foremost. Why should she live with such a thing? Don't take no for an answer b/c she's 'a fall risk'..........all elders are falls risks to begin with! Nobody should be plagued with anxiety and if your mom's PCP doesn't understand or address that fact, then it's time for a new PCP who does.
You do not mention your mom suffers from dementia so the addition of an anti-depressant/anti anxiety med like Paxil or Zoloft shouldn't be a big problem for her to try. If it doesn't work to help with sleep AND anxiety, then the doctor can move on to plan B. It's really trial & error to find out what works by finding out what does not work. My mother has dementia, so all the medications make it worse, plus she's fallen 77x over the past few years (that's not a typo), but the doctor works with me to find a care plan that minimizes her confusion and falls AND keeps her anxiety & depression relatively at bay.
Wishing you the best of luck demanding comfort for your mother & finding a good solution!
I give my 97 yr old Dad a 3 mg Melatonin each night.
She is probably bored and needs things to do during the day.
Buu her large print puzzles to do.
Let her listen to her favorite music.
Bit large print paint by number to do.
Host a Bingo Game.
Check with your Church and see if they have Senior Meetings. Luncheons, ect.
In the meantime, your mom will probably benefit from a consistent routine and streamlined home environment. Less things to trip over or knock over can lessen her anxiety. However, don't strip all her beloved decorative items from her room(s). Just find ways to display stuff so they are visible but not a hazard.
My mom also uses melatonin 10 ml and it does help her sleep.
Sometimes a couple of Tylenol is enough to help them relax and drift off to sleep.
They have packets of honey the size of ketchup packets that contain 10mgs CBD for tea.
They also sell CBD tea bags and sublingual strips.
Its safe and effective.
Kudos to you for verbalizing this option. 🌿 👨⚕️
My LO entered her AL specifically because she was a significant fall risk who had been living in a home with numerous stairwells, soft loose rugs, old sidewalks……
She had been born in a bedroom in THAT HOUSE, and I dreaded taking her out of it and selling it out from under her. HER decorations, HER pictures, HER memories…
After we placed her, she often attempted to “go home”, cried, begged for her caregivers to “call a taxi” for her. She’s the last living of my 8 aunts and uncles. It broke my heart.
With the help of a very fine geriatric practice, support from her social contacts and religious community, and the skill of her caregivers, everything ultimately fell into place for her.
You are at the heartbreaking point, as we were, when no “good” choices are left to her.
Now you must weigh her comfort against her safety. If her care is “affecting her sleep” it’s affecting YOUR sleep. I slept on the floor beside my mother’s bed to protect her from falls, and based on my experience I can guarantee, that doesn’t work either.
As a nurse, you understand this. The hardest, most impossible decisions, when based on love and safety, become the best ones.
Be at peace with what you decide.
After Dad died she was so depressed though, that she needed some anti-depressant medication to cope. We wanted to allow her to grieve as she needed, but her sorrow was becoming detrimental to her health. Some of my siblings were becoming financially predatory and Mom just wanted to die (in fact, she was diagnosed with “heartbreak syndrome”). She didn’t want to get out of bed and would weep until she had no energy.
She was able to see a geriatric psychiatrist who prescribed a very light dose - this made an immense difference for Mom. He also spent time talking to her which was also very helpful for her. I strongly recommend taking your mom to a psychiatrist over any general practitioner for the best specialized care.
This new medication did not cause any additional balance problems and to the contrary, it helped her regain her life, lower her blood pressure, become more active and get stronger, physically and mentally.
It took about a month for the medication to become effective - there was no change initially (but after 30 days she improved like someone had flipped a switch).
About the fall risk…
(Look at your mom’s other medications too - we believe that some of Mom’s heart medications (prescribed by a general practitioner (DO) and random doctors doing rounds on hospitalizations) were contributing to her balance issues - once a new cardiologist got involved, changed some medications and tapered some of the dosages, she regained more balance and better health. After her overmedication, which nearly killed her, we stuck to MDs and specialists only.
Her balance was not perfect, but much less dangerous.
Mom remained in the antidepressant for the rest of her life without any problems).
Starrting with a very low dose to get the required effect is kind of a learning curve, but it can be done.
People are so very negative about addiction--which is so ridiculous when our LO's are in chronic pain or anxiety/depression rise up.
Time for a dr visit to discuss this.