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My parents were also in their 90's, and my Mom needed to go into long-term-care. Poor Dad was so lost not having Mom at home, but Mom was having serious health issues and needed a village to take care of her.
My Dad hired caregivers to help him and help around the house. And every day the caregiver would drive Dad to see Mom in long-term-care at lunch time. The caregiver would need to help feed Mom. Dad just couldn't see her in that condition, so an hour was all he could endure. Plus Mom didn't know who Dad was. It was so sad.
When it comes to memory issues, I think it is more frustrating when the person is a spouse. I know I was easy going with my parents when their memory started to fade, but if my sig other forgets something [he's the absent minded professor] it really rattles me, so I know I won't be user friendly when and if the time comes if he gets dementia :(
Yes, see if there is a med that could even out Dad's feelings. Even a very low dosage of an anti-depressant can work wonders.
This sounds really tough. Poor mom. Poor dad. The lack of sleep alone can cause problems.
It does sound like dad might have some cognitive issues of his own.
What have you already tried? Has dad been to a neurologist?
Have you spoken with his primary doctor about his behavior, his meds?
Does mom do okay when dad is not around?
Can you leave your mom in the memory care and move dad to a different location? What advice has the AL given you?
I wouldn’t think moving them back home is the solution as they need more care not less.
Start with testing and evaluating medications. Make sure they are placed appropriately for their individual requirements.
Rule out UTI for each.
This must be awful for all of you as well. Does someone have DPOA for medical and financial?