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My mom lived with me, in my home, for 5 years. I set her ALF room up with the same bedspread, her favorite personal items, framed pictures of loved ones and used a ptouch to put their names on the bottom of the frames. Mom could remember her loved ones faces but could not remember names. I left notes and had white boards reminding her she was loved. With all that, she never transitioned well. She was an introvert and did not like the social aspect. She was too strong for memory care and not strong enough for an ALF.
Personality does have a significant impact on their adjustment. I saw many new folks move in and embrace the ALF.
Take one day at a time. It was the hardest thing I have ever done but can be a wonderful way to enjoy a mother daughter relationship again rather than a caregiver relationship.
Best of luck to you and keep us informed on your progress.
What you are experiencing is very common as her brain is broken, she is beyond making sound decisions.
Trust your AL team, they have done this before. It is generally asked that the LO's stay away or limit their visits for the first several weeks so. The LO needs time to acclimate to their new home.
Yes, once there she will want to go home, yes, she will hate the food and so on. Believe me, they all do the same thing unless they are like my mother a social butterfly, who loves AL, she has made many new friends, joins all the activities and bus trips.
What you can do is to not try and fix everything, set your boundaries and stick to them. You are now the decision maker for your mother.
She is where she needs to be right now, in the future it is most likely that she will have to be moved to MC. I have one in MC as well!
Sending support your way, know that you are doing the right thing.
So far you are doing great !! Keep it up .
Do not give in and let Mom change her mind.
Do not give in and bring Mom back home again , it is then so much harder to get them out of the house again later.
Ask the facility , but most say not to visit everyday in the beginning. Let Mom be forced to adjust to the fact that this is where she lives now , rather than just waiting for a visit everyday from you .
Good Luck . Keep coming back here if Mom gives you trouble .
She has seen her facility so she knows what to expect. Still, it’s normal to have some fear of the unknown. Transitional times are hard for everyone involved.
It’s normal for you to be feeling anxious. I’m glad that you found a facility near to your home. You won’t have to travel a long distance to see your mom.
Wishing you and your mom all the best.