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I remember when my Dad asked me if I could retire from my career. I turned around and asked Dad if he left his career to take care of his parents or take care of Mom's parents. Dad never asked me again. He understood that I needed to work.
Your Mom wants to keep up her lifestyle, live in her own home, while you change your lifestyle for her. That is probably why your sister isn't in the here and now. Your sister knows the emotional and financial cost involved by enabling Mom.
My Mom refused caregivers, we tried. Mom was just too stubborn. She was a fall risk, refused to use a walker. She said that my Dad could help her. Think not, Dad was an ever higher fall risk and he wanted to move to senior living. But it was Mom's choice as she was still clear headed at 97.
My Mom won the argument against moving to Independent Living but that decision took her life a few month later after a very serious head trauma fall. Dad was ready to sell the house to move into IL. Dad loved Independent Living, the meals, the Staff, etc. and he had a very nice 2 bedroom apartment. He did say he wished Mom wasn't so stubborn, he felt she would still be with him if they both have moved to IL years ago.
An executor is for the will after the person has died... They have no control over what happens while she is alive. That would be POA. Does your mom have a durable POA or a financial and medical POA? Those would give the power to act when she is no longer able to act for herself.
If mom is still mentally competent, I would have a conversation with her about what she would like to have happen. A family discussion would be best so sister knows too, then everyone would be on the same page. Discuss getting a POA set up, if she doesn't have one. My mom's has my sister and I as joint decision makers.
Much luck to you and your mom
If it was me, I'd ask mom to give you POA. If she refuses, I'd move back out, get mom some help if she wants it and let sister take care of her with the POA. Sister selling the house makes good sense if mom needs more care than can be provided at home. If mom won't change the POA, it doesn't matter what mom wants, sis will do what sis wants.
You're in a no-win situation. Save yourself. Take care of yourself. Put mom's needs after your own needs. Go back to work and create savings for your own old age. {{{Hugs}}}