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I arranged the room as much like the one here as I could. I took nothing of value. We told Mom she was moving to an apartment where she would meet new friends. We showed her the room. Its been almost 7 yrs, but I think we walked her around ending up in the Common area. Sat a little while and then told her that we needed to go. This way an aide was nearby and other people.
I am not for that leaving them for a few days with no contact. I visited but didn't last long. Mom needs to adjust to the aides doing for her. I was lucky my Mom adjusted well.
FYI by your description it is very possible she will need MC sooner rather than later, and that will be yet another transition and maybe an even smaller space. Be prepared to discuss anxiety meds with her doctor as an option should she need help with that. Dementia robs people of their ability to sooth themselves through logic and reason (and memory), so they often need help with this.
I wish you much success in helping her transition as smoothly as possible.
So many of us on this board are "only children" and I can tell you - we have given up our lives/rooms in our homes, etc. to help our parents, and your "selfish" and "narcissistic" is by far the RUDEST comment I've ever heard on here.
With that said, my approach would be to think positive and to realize that your Mom is very, very fortunate to be able to afford Assisted Living and to embrace the concept, as it is a wonderful way of life and will help her immensely and will keep her safe.
It is a dream for many, unachievable by most.
I would be present when the movers are there and be positive while she is settling in. Helping her put her things away, etc..
So, I'd promote a happy, upbeat positive attitude during her transition. Point out all the great things about her new lifestyle and location.
Sincerely, one of the many non-narcissistic, and non-selfish "only child" - who is/has devoted their lives to providing loving care to one or both of their parents in their time of need.