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I've learned not to raise the issue of a paid substitution for free family help until I have something lined up. That interim time of worrying about who will take care of something can cause anxiety and make someone more resistant.
To "sweeten the pot", I sometimes try to find a service that really connects with my father. After contacting a number of lawn services, I finally found one owned by a fellow whose wife was in the Army. Bingo!!! There's an opportunity for some small chit chat after the lawn is mowed.
Another thought: at 89 years old there is going to be a health crisis, maybe with rehab, who knows. This is when lots of elders are moved into care. You guys, Frequent Flyer, myself and many , many others share this situation with stubborn parents who are circling the drain but refuse to move. The next "Crisis" with either of my folks I am determined to get one, or both into care, no matter how much crying and yelling goes on. I'm on my last nerve with this nonsense. It's going to end one way or the other.
Of course they won't move, sig other and I had been doing everything for them... thus enabling them to continue to live in that house. Why should they move :P
First thing you do, make a list of all the chores you and hubby do around the house for your Mother. Now cross off half the items on that list. Now cross off a couple more.
When Mother asks for hubby to come clean the gutters tell her "sorry, hubby can no longer do that, you will need to hire someone". When Mother ask for you to do a chore in the house, say the same thing "sorry, I can no longer do that". Remember, you and hubby are trying to maintain two houses, and as we ourselves age, that gets harder and harder to do.
Many times I had to play the "age card" with my parents. Dad wanted me to climb up into the attic and bring down some boxes. I told Dad "I can't do that at my age, remember I will be 70 years old soon". Dad seemed surprised. I believe our parent still think we are 35 and can do everything.
So, set some boundaries. Once Mother realizes that she can't maintain the house on her own.... or maybe she can when she hires people... then she will take a different mind set.