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Unless you really have a good relationship and truly want to,live together, don't do this and absolutely insist that the dog is part of the package.
Read through many of the topics here on this site and think long term of the care that will be required as she ages and you and husband age as well. Remember circumstances and health can change rapidly.
If she is like my mother, who would not let her granddaughters visit because they wanted to bring their two chi's, run like the wind. It would be just the beginning of her demands and conditions. If she has a legitimate reason for not wanting the dog, I would love to know what it is. I suspect she wants the help and wants to maintain control as well. Think long and hard about this.
There are any of us out here who have beloved pets that we take just as good of care, which are not howling, or underfoot, or tearing up the house.
It starts with the dog. Then it's what you eat, where you go and who you are with. RUN!!
What often happens is that the woman that moves in, in this case you the dil, becomes an unpaid servant, and develops great resentment for the stress under which she lives and the amount of work she has to do. Is your husband able to set very good boundaries with his mother? Does he value his relationship with you over that with his mother? Do you work and will you be able to keep working - for your own benefit and retirement provision? Do you realise that your mil will need more and more help and are you willing to provide that? Have you worked out on paper a financial arrangement with your mil? Will you be selling your own home to move in? Do you and your hub see this as an opportunity to save money on home expenses?
I was a little confused as your profile says you are looking after your mother - guess you mean your mil. I had digressed from the original question - my advice is the same as ff and Jessie.