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The doctor suggested checking in to the hospital urgent care, and that's what we did. It took only a few hours there to discover that this was all being caused by a serious bladder and kidney infection -- and that it's fairly common that the brain is affected in this way! They admitted me and began serious meds for the infection, and some med to keep me calmer. ....my blood pressure, of course, was seriously high by that time.
I went that far, before finally contacting my doctor who suspected it. I was kept there for 5 full days, and my cognizance still wasn't totally clear until days later.
Now I know! and I share this story with all who will listen. Since my experience, I have read and been told by nurses and doctors that bladder and kidney infections can start in seniors without any of the usual warning signs......except SERIOUS confusion!
I felt the need to advise you, as I was 72 before I experienced this - and had nothing to go on. Thank heaven I had my son to guide me to assistance.
If your mom is on Aricept, see if it can be given in the morning. Might make a difference.
Living alone is frightening at any age for some people and especially as you age and feel less confident in your ability to fight off intruders. There may be many things in play here but I believe your mother is scared to death of being alone. I don't care if there are other people living around her, they are not family or a husband they are strangers too and she is frightened.
The second area I would look at is medication. Her meds may not have changed, but her reaction to them may have. It does happen, it is like a side effect that you did not previously have that has now manifested itself. I personally took a medication for years to stop seizures with no real problem. I wanted to get pregnant and therefore stopped the medication with my doctors approval. Later when I needed to begin meds again, I went back to the same medication and it caused HORRIBLE NIGHTMARES! All night I never felt like a got a good nights sleep as I felt like I was running either away from something bad or searching for someone. This continued until my panic and anxiety attacks kicked in and I could stand it no longer and HAD TO CHANGE MEDICATION!
Have you ever tried having your Mom come and spend a few days with you or a week? It would be interesting to know if she felt more at ease and had fewer or no nightmares while with you. If there is no change then I would begin to look at her medications. Look up each one on the internet and read about the side effects of each one. You need to go the the doctor with her and tell him that this is what is happening and you need help. If he is unable to offer anything else other than a pat on the back, find a new doctor.
Personally I would bring my mother home to live with me so she would feel safe and sound. If I was unable to do that then I would find out about any and all fun functions taking place at the senior apartments and I would be her date and attend with her. I would try to help her assimilate into the group of other women. Introduce her around, speak with the other women and tell them how your Mom is shy but would really like some good friends like them. You may have to do this on numerous occasions until she can find a friend or two. I would also speak to anyone in charge and ask them to please make sure to include her and beg her if necessary to attend the events. Just because you are older does not mean you make friends any easier than you did as a young person. It may actually be worse. She needs a reason to live and I am sure she is depressed. If you could read her mind, she would probably give her eye teeth to be living with you and feel safe and loved.
Good luck to you and your Mother on this journey, it is not an easy one.