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The second is to stop her needing to leave the bed and be taken to the toilet. There is a less-common female version of the male plastic urinal bottle, very very common in hospital use. The female bottle version costs about $10, and it has a funnel-shaped attachment that goes on top of the male bottle. I got one for my sister, who can stand up OK but has trouble walking to the toilet. She could get out of bed (and she has rails everywhere) and use this thing standing by the bed. It then sits flat on a sill and doesn’t tip over. Depending on mobility, you could probably use it kneeling on the bed. Your mother sounds as though she may be capable mentally of working that out.
For your own sleep in the day time, I hope that you have ear plugs and an eye shade. My niece was working night shifts in a noisy flat, and was clear that she would never be able to sleep during the day without them. You might need a vibrating ‘bell’ in bed if you are worried about her.
Our mother's first UTI after moving to MC resulted in severe sun-downing. She was out of control later afternoon/early evening, but fine in the morning. Of course this started on a Friday evening, after office hours! We had to treat the UTI and give her Lorazepam (anti-anxiety) in the afternoon to ward off the sun-downing. The nice thing about this med is generally you know the first time whether it works or not - no need for it to build up in her system! Once the UTI was done, we didn't continue the medication.
The next two UTIs presented themselves as night-time bed-wetting. No sun-downing, no problem during the day, but she would soak herself and the bed at night. Once the UTI was treated, bed-wetting stopped. The nurse made the connection when the second episode started, so now she's aware of it and will get her tested ASAP!
As to medications, no matter what they are for, they affect different people in different ways. Sometimes one has to try multiples before finding one that works (or doesn't cause unwanted side-effects.) What works for some doesn't for others. After heart valve replacement, the medication dad was supposed to take for the rest of his life only lasted a few months and after cutting the dosage over and over it was stopped, replaced by baby aspirin! While in extended hospital stay, the heparin (very common, long-used medication) they were shooting me with was resulting in increased platelets (should reduce them, thereby reducing chances of blood clots) and finally with a hematoma - the shots stopped at that point and the platelet count returned to normal, as it was before admission!
So, in addition to checking for other issues, a urine culture would be a simple thing to try. Medication changes will take time, but might help resolve the issue, if UTI isn't the underlying cause.) In the meantime, would a bedside commode help at all, making a bathroom "trip" easier for her and not require you to get up?
Our pharmacist signed him up for a Myrbetriq discount card because of the cost, so you might want to consider this yourself.
If you haven't seen a urologist, they can do a test to determine if emptying bladder is the problem and offer you some treatments.
I've read other posts on this site where dementia is the bottom line. It's more of an OCD issue where they think about going to pee and make a trip to the bathroom
Sometimes she actually went ,but more often than not it was a false alarm.Bladder fine etc.More of a brain disconnect if you ask me.
She would wear depends at night but refused to use them unless she
had no choice.Hence getting up numerous times af night.I was a walking zombie ,and had to explain to her that I needed my rest so I could be my best for me and her.
We came to an understanding that before I went to bed. I'd take her to the bathroom and once during the night Any in between would have to be done in her depends.
It was quite the experience.You aren't alone and I wish you well.
I agree with others and fear that a certain amount of problems could be due to her mental state. My mother has short term memory issues. She doesn't communicate well about medical issues. She now wears incontinence briefs all the time.
If your mother wears those and does not drink excess liquid close to bedtime that might be the best you can hope for although it would be helpful to have her tested by a urologist.