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It sucks that your mom has to move rooms and may have to again if she gets another bad roommate but she is declining because of this stressful situation and I would hate to see her keep going downhill. She sounds like a lovely lady.
Unless a person has a single room I don't think it is right that visitors are allowed to be in the room all day. Visits should be done in common areas out of respect for the other person that lives in said room.
Bring it up to the administration, because your mom has every right to peace in her private space. The "help me" stuff is a dealbreaker for that roommate, too. Ask to be moved, or pony up the money for a private room.
Earplugs, for a start. Soft disposable foam ones, like they give you on flights, and your mother should ask for assistance with putting them in when she's ready to settle down for the night.
Trickier but still possible: negotiate with the roommate, and talk to the staff so that they can support with finding a modus vivendi that is acceptable to all parties. Be positive! - you say this lady is very nice, she has only just moved in, her husband must be nice too or he wouldn't be so concerned about his wife that he's there all day, and it is bound to take a little while for everyone to settle.
You can train your mother to realize that it is quite possible to say no nicely, and to ask people to allow you privacy without offending them.
Are there lounges or communal areas where the couple can spend time? Is the roommate currently bedbound, or might it be nice for her to get out a bit and see around the facility?
Is there a quiet room (like a library or similar) where your mother can have a little doze in a comfy chair after lunch?
Key things:
TALK!
For heaven's sake don't let this fester. Seize the day!
At any rate, I wouldn't let this continue w/o involving the admins. Your mother is entitled to peace and quiet.
NH my mom was in claimed this. She roomed with a woman who the nurses claimed like to listen to religious music.
Highly doubtful, since she was only a few weeks from dying.
The music was probably for the nurses.
Ask that she be paired with a roommate that gets few visitors. I am sure the new roommate would appreciate the company. Sadly, I am sure there are a few residents that have few visitors.
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