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It has been interesting seeing the different occupations that the relatives have had.... and how many of them had a boat load of children back then.... and another thing for health issues, seeing what was their cause of death to see if there is a pattern from one generation to the next.
Her main chores became putting the silverware away matching socks and folding towels
She loved crossword puzzles too which morphed into jigsaw puzzles but lately she's losing interest in those
I still buy her the readers digest and weekly magazines to keep in her purse for those hours when she doesn't have company in memory care
At nearly 94, she will still ask what are we going to do today - the answer is always, something fun - even if it's not
In the day of going digital and plastic only, there's no longer a need for a checkbook or to keep a register. It's actually better because so many places no longer accept personal checks. In fact, some places may actually only except plastic, you just never know from place to place. I went digital long ago and I can always monitor how much money was spent and where the money has gone just by keeping a close watch on my bank statements and watching my receipts. It's a big blessing to be able to know where your money went and what you spend it on, going digital these days is just the right thing to do because it's more secure
God bless you for recognizing the problem and wanting to help her!
My 86 year old Mom was having a hard time adjusting to her new residence at an ALF. She is a retired CNA, used to working in a hospital. She has dementia. One day she asked me, her daughter, if she could buy some scrubs the same color the the ALF caregivers wore. I thought she wanted them for lounging since she was used to wearing them at her past job. I picked up a couple of sets of scrubs for her. The next day the head of the ALF called me. She said Mom had showed up in her office early that morning,dressed in her scrubs, saying she was ready to go to work. Fortunately, the staff was very understanding and kind enough to "schedule" her on the morning shift as the official greeter at the ALF, complete with an official name tag from the facility. She would hang around in the common area and foyer socializing with residents and visitors. She still uses her CNA evaluation skills to call the caregivers' attention to residents who need assistance. She associates the ALF with the hospital she used to work in and thinks of the staff as her coworkers. Mom found this "job" as a way to cope with her need to be useful.
You're right to be concerned that your mom feels like she has no purpose in life. Your profile doesn't say if she has dementia or if you live with her but keep an eye out for things she can do. Folding laundry, watching and chatting about the local news. Ask her opinion on things from time to time, ask for her advice. Just be on the lookout for things that will help your mom feel useful. My dad lived with us and my then 18-year-old daughter would come to me for guidance or an opinion and if I thought the situation was appropriate I'd encourage her to ask her grandpa. She would, my dad would share his insights with her, she'd benefit from his experience and my dad would feel about 10 feet tall.