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When mom passed I felt my dad and my late sister there ready to take her home to her parents, departed siblings, & God. I felt Life of a different sort fill the room as I held her hand, heard her final breaths in & out, and then the final expiration. It was Life that is beyond the reaches of suffering-- Life that holds peace, forgiveness, & resolution for all the pain.
I know a bit about the struggle to take care of an aging parent-- tho' my mom lived on her own capably until the last month of her life of 82 years-- I did have to take on ALOT and give up my own life a bit.
What I also know is this: if you pace yourself by taking care of you, trusting in medical and other assistance as well as a force greater than yourself, you will do fine.
And being there at the end, to support and not allow even those who broke your heart the most to die alone-- that will heal much of the sorrow that has accumulated over time.
Forgiveness & Love-- while detached-- is a way I wholeheartedly recommend.
Thanks to All here who gave me strength on my journey.
Best Love,
Anamaya
Think I'll tie on my new athletic shoes and go for a walk-- right after the yoga!
Hope everyone out there has some sun in their sky today, as well.
I am glad that DNRs and living wills are not completely enforceable. When a person signs them, they are not facing the reality of them in most cases. It would be terrible if someone asked to be resuscitated and the hospital said no, you signed this paper a year ago, so die you shall.
Your mother should be the one to decide about the DNR. It may mean that she does not qualify for certain services, but it is her life and her decision. I am glad that my father had a DNR, because when it came time, his will and the paperwork was in place. My mother was not competent to make a decision, so the hospital asked me. I told them not to try to resuscitate him because he had prayed for death for so long. They didn't ask us to sign any new paperwork. We let him slip away as peacefully as possible. We knew it was time. I hope that anyone faced with the decision will be in the same position where they know that it is time to let go.