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She was welcomed with open arms at her ALF at first; but since she had the political leanings of Rosa Luxembourg and saw no reason ever either to compromise or to keep silent… I was proud of her integrity, but I did often idly wish to be a fly on the wall there.
But Moni being elbowed out of activities like that is different, and mean, and snide. Please let us know the context.
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This is about a group that has been involved in this social setting before your Mom joined in, and as with any social group, including this one, ©2014 AgingCare, LLC All rights reserved, when you join, you accept the terms and conditions. If you don't comply, you don't get to participate, and that old saying, "you will have rules to follow no matter where you go". It sounds like if this place is so stress full for her, then why would she want to be there in the first place? I agree with Candy, she really needs a buddy. If this is an issue concerning a residence, don't take it lightly or who to blame. If haven't already done so, make an appointment with her Dr. for physical and also with mental health, make sure she has proper medications if needed. Just cause you get older does not mean your body stops going through hormones or chemical imbalances. I also agree with IsntEasy, "talk with the director" they cared in the first place, that's why they are there, and they will work with you to help your Mom... PS... If it is the other "lady" mentioned, look into that as well, find out if there has been any reports and raise those flags, cause if it is a bully situation, no matter who it is that is doing it, it has to be put in check! It could be a medical issue for her just as well and sometimes these things manifest in such a way to bring attention to it that would otherwise be left unattended, and who knows, you could be saving a life... Best wishes...
The fact that your mom was bumped from a trip is kind of a red flag for me. It may have meant that they would have needed extra staff to supervise her if she went along and they didn't have it available.
If your mom is in a private pay facility, I promise you that they do not want to lose a resident over behavior issues. Residents are paying customers. They probably tried many strategies to modify your mom's behavior before taking the drastic step of a warning that they plan to evict her. Unless you want your mom to move, sit down with the director and work with them to devise a plan to help your mom get along better with her neighbors.
Also consider that maybe a move is not the worst thing. She may find a better 'clique' at a new community. I've seen it happen. ALs and SNFs are a lot like high school and maybe your mom has fallen into the trap of courting "mean girls" to try to be included : ) But, keep in mind that, like school, if she's kicked out of multiple communities, you're going to have a harder and harder time placing her and may need to consider a dementia unit.
This sounds like a very sad situation for your mom, but I agree with Countymouse. We really do need more information about where your mom lives and if this a certain program that is not being accepting. How far away do you live? What diagnosis does your mom have? Is the facility or program trying to kick her out? Please send more info...Thanks
But meanwhile - your poor mother! Ouch. It sounds as if she has been victimised by a group of vicious closed-minded old hags.
You could try talking to the organizer, but even if she remains in the group, you cannot make the others like her. These are not moldable children, elders can be extremely set in their ways.