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I have seen MANY deaths from C-diff and people underestimate the number. Usually listed as complication of auto-immune or complications of cancer treatment, or whatever, it is missed that this is DEADLY. We are not talking diarrhea here, but rather explosive propulsive emptying of the body continuously, and inability to hold any nutrition, and wasting of the body.
There is no reason not to tell Mom Sister is dealing with this. Hopefully she will be one of those cured by medications. This is like any disease; would you withhold information about most diseases? Only you know Mom, her reactions to things, her worry and etc. You are the best judge of telling, or when to tell. Trust your own instincts.
I will tell you frankly, if sister isn't helped by the more comment "treatments", you need to explore fecal transplant. Research it online.
Years back, I discovered I had a latent infection called MRSA. I told my sister who is a doc, and she said I was still clear to see my parents. In this situation, check with your doc to make sure you are not actively contagious. If you’re not, I wouldn’t bring it up to mom.
My point being that if I were in your situation with my mom I would probably let her know sister isn’t feeling well and probably has the flu they aren’t sure but they know it’s not COVID, something like that so sister can lay low recovering and Mom isn’t stressed that she isn’t hearing from her or something. Unless of course your sisters condition gets to the point of hospitalization in which case reevaluate, I might tell mom she is in the hospital where they can better treat her but not that they know it’s C-diff since that holds a particular fear for her until and unless you absolutely have to. C-diff doesn’t always require a hospital stay, in fact it usually doesn’t we just hear more about those cases for obvious reasons so don’t get overly worried yourself either, your mom will likely pick up on that as well. Hope your sister is better soon (tell her to eat fermented foods) and you and your mom don’t suffer too much from Moms anxiety over it.
We no longer said "grandchild is being tested for...", or "In two weeks, sibling is going to have surgery for...".
We told her happy endings only.
I have recently had a mini stroke but found some serious cardiac issues while in the hospital. I refuse to tell her anything until all procedures are over and I am well. I am one of her several caregivers. Its not worth upsetting her.
My DH has shown me that sometimes a little minimising ie "watering down' or delay is necessary. For kindness. (He calls it anxiety minimising strategy).
Just as Barb & Llama said, the happy ending approach. No "there was a great flood!" until "There was a great flood but everyone was saved!". Or even "There was a great flood, the people were so brave, nearly everyone was saved. They are rebuilding".
Like a news reporter, it's all in the delivery
No one tells a mother of an ugly new born that the apple of their "lovin' mama's eyes" looks like a toad. No one tells a bride on her wedding day that she really missed the mark with her hair and dress.
How about when we visit a person we care for during a great illness. Do we say that they look like heck? No we lie. And we act, and make sure that they even read it in our eyes and body language that we see them as they've alway meant to us.
We're all liars. For love and compassion's sake we are big fat liars. I hope.