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Rocketcat - That's a good question!! I'm definitely going to look into that. She had only told me about the implants so I don't know if that was an option. I do know she does have to get some other work done; like a root canal and have some teeth pulled. But I agree that dentures would probably be a easier solution after that.
I know its really hard because my father was the same way. My dad never wanted to listen to me or anyone else. I guess there is only so much you can do. But have you tried having a social worker or family therapist speak with her. I wonder if there is a deeper issue. I hope you can get the help your mom needs.
As freqflyer mentions, I am more afraid for the infections in her teeth and that could lead other problems like the heart. I try to express my concerns about this to her but she just doesn't seem to listen.
I think something like the 'tough love' approach might be able to work. I mean you can bring a horse to water but you can't make it drink it right?!!
If she goes for denture impressions (may be twice - no pain from that) they could also have her new dentures put straight in after teeth removal. This is what we did with my husband.
I think the gel idea for her knee is brilliant. Again not sure if they do MIS where you are but it is Minimal Invasion Surgery. They can be in and out same day. Only local injections given for it and a lot less cutting open.
Who knows? If she sees how well the teeth go then she may not be as scared for other ops?
I wish you luck.
Otherwise, knee surgery has a very long recovery time. Your Mom would need to go to Rehab numerous times during the week. I vision that your Mom would make excuses to not go because rehab can be painful. Thus the knee surgery would have been a waste.
As for your Mom seeing the dentist, I can understand that, I hardly know anyone who jumps for joy that he/she is going to the dentist. It's the fear of the unknown. As Tothill above had mentioned, teeth can get infected. I know your Mom probably won't listen, but teeth infections can travel elsewhere in the body, especially the heart.
My Dad needs dental work too and is reluctant to have it done, it has been two years since he last saw the dentist. I do not worry about how his teeth look, I am more concerned with infection.
Like my dad, you cannot force your mother to get her teeth taken care of, but you can refuse to enable behaviour. If she cannot get around because of her knee, stop helping her out. It is not easy to say no, when you are the only family member around, but you are allowed to say "Mum, you cannot rely on me to do x,y,z because of the bad knee, when you are not willing to do what is needed to get better." Then stand firm. The problem is hers, not yours.
I have heard other posters use this ploy with obstinate Loved Ones with some success. You might tell her how she is really doing it for you because without the knee surgery, you won’t be able to care for her as well, as it is harder to care for someone in a wheelchair.