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Make sure your visits with her are happy, treats, music, and love and joy.
give her the milshakes put a lil ensure in it if you want.
what is her favorite food? bring it on !!! dance keep on dancing.... maybe she won't feel she needs to walk as much so she doesn't fall down...
GET A GAIT BELT !!! They help you to help them walk .. !!
JUST LOOK UP GAIT BELT... BELTS WITH GRAB HANDLES... They work great.
Very soon now, I'm going to ask again if the doctor will write an order for a hospice evaluation, but I doubt it. They want to see not only a decline in health and dementia but also a loss of 20% of their body weight. It boils down to mom being too fat to qualify, in spite of all her issues and chronic pain! Wanting to die isn't enough. The whole situation is dreadful, really, and very frustrating for me because I've tried 1000 things to help her quality of life and nothing works. Nothing.
In the end, food and water isn't "withdrawn" by hospice, as the others have said. The patient herself is the one who refuses food and water when she's at the end of her life, and that's when hospice administers medication to keep her comfortable and to ease her passing. It took my father about 10 days to pass under those exact conditions with hospice. It's one of the hardest things we daughters will ever have to witness in our lives.
Good luck to you.
So why is she falling everyday? get her a medical bed, put it down to the ground as closely as you can... put a mattress down to help her..
ask for palliative or hopsice care evaluation.
get her a walker or put a porta potty close to her... sometimes easier said than done...
make your stays happy,, bring her treats music and joy...
ask doctor for POLST n DNR.... dnr is on polst... usually... make sure you have a copy pasted over her bed or next to it or in a drawer just in case.
it's not fun... good luck
And no, nobody will 'withhold' food and water. As her body shuts down, she simply won't want either. The hospice part is for comfort and pain relief only. Well, and emotional support if you/they need it.
We want our LO's to live as long as possible--but with dignity. I've known people who have kept LO's on feeding tubes, IV's---and sustained 'life' for many many months past what would have been their natural time of death.
Depression and loneliness over missing your dad? I can certainly understand that. No amount of antidepressants will ease a pain like that along with her physical health issues.
Depression is depression, and there’s no way to know whether some intervention, whether by medication or a resident chat group or some other therapy, might not free her to a more comfortable life while she’s here.
If she does deserve a shot at an improved life while she’s here it might be a shame to pass up the chance.
It’s a tough decision, so be sure to remember that a decision made with love and respect is always the right one.
Let Mom be your guide and honor her wishes. Discuss palliative care with her doctor. I am hoping you are already her medical POA.
Contact a hospice company to have her evaluated.