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If your mother gets kicked out of the AL, SHE is up a creek.
Not you.
She is not your child and you are not her Guardian. You don't intervene. Tell the AL to send her to the ER and let the state take control.
I only run myself ragged for folks who are cooperative. I take a hands off approach to those who are self-destructive, mentally ill and or "stubbornly independent".
They need more help than I or any mere mortal is capable of giving.
Written letter to the Facility Admin, stressing how dare your staff exploit
the tender heart towards animals that your mother has, and actually help her to quarantine feral animals in her living space.
To support your mother in this "not well thought out" behavior of a vulnerable adult, the staff involved puts her at risk of falls, disease from fleas and ticks, and liability, at a time when her needs are too great to be caring for feral animals. The facility should be made responsible to treat for fleas and clean the carpet and bathroom.
Their actions involving helping your mother should result in staff taking the responsibility for their own lack of judgment, responsibility to rectify this situation should not fall on my mother or myself to rectify this impending disaster. end...
Do you think that might protect your Mom from being evicted, and from this situation becoming yours to fix? (Whether or not you agree, you can present this false bravado for liability reasons, or to fight an eviction.) imo. Poor cats, she thought that she was "saving" them. Sad.
Just thinking on it, and wondering what we will ever do when (not if) our elderly 'cat lover' ends up in AL. A scenario such as this did not even enter our minds, until now.
I hope that you cannot be drawn in, but totally understand your worry, on so many levels.
The cats should be let loose, returned to their natural habitat. imo. The mother cat may have other kittens to attend to.
Your mother needs to live with the consequences of her actions. This is simply not your problem to solve. I'm curious to know why you think it is.
There's a technique used in parenting called "natural consequences". I don't recall your saying that your mom has dementia, so if she can still learn, this is the way to go.
Stop swooping in and saving her.
I would not involve myself at all.
I could see my mom doing the same thing--and your mom had HELP from the staff? Oh that makes it 100xs' weirder.
OK. The Human Society may be closed for the weekend (I bet they only close on Monday)---but they should be called ASAP and the cat & kittens need to be removed. Sweet of your mom and kudos to her for caring...but..she's not really in a place to be handling a family of cats.
Someone would come to the facility and pick up the animals. There is no dearth of animal lovers out there!
And then her bathroom should be bleached to within an inch of it's life!!
You just can't make this stuff up.
I think I would be calling to find out if they can hold them until they are ready for release.
Her heart's in the right place even if her reasoning is a bit off.
Yes her heart is in the right place but she is just not physically capable of doing this. She uses a walker, has broken many bones due to falls (including her spine) and is hunched over with very poor balance. I am just afraid I am going to get roped in to this drama. My husband and I have worked very long hours to get to take two days off for the holiday this weekend. He is going to blow a gasket if I get sucked into this situation over the weekend. We both need to unplug and de-stress. Mom has been a significant problem in my life for a decade now. I just can't do it anymore...
Prayers
It does sound, larger picture, that your Mom is moving out of the timeframe in which she can be ALF patient and may need to move up to memory care or to Nursing Home.
There may be light holiday staffing soon, but the staff will have access to other staff on call. Put this in the hands of whomever is working. Our own Animal Care and Control does the same work weekends and holidays it does all year round in an emergency situation, which is what this is.
Hello toxoplasmosis risk, not just to her but any caregiver. Cat scratch fever, which I’ve seen in two elders. Like send intimated, how bout some flea or tick diseases?
Contact admin and tell them mom isn’t liable. They are because if not for staff mom couldn’t be in the imperiled position she now is.