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The combination of the two documents has proven very helpful in managing my LO’s care and meeting her needs effectively.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/should-elderly-parent-continue-living-at-home-95665.htm
Here are a couple more:
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/benefits-of-hiring-home-care-for-an-older-adult-182771.htm
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/activities-of-daily-living-why-this-measure-matters-186853.htm
Keeping that in mind, I'd be quietly observing personal care/hygiene, the household tasks, meals & drinks, security issues & looking at what she can do & what may need to be changed.
Some examples are;
Choosing clothing & using the heating/cooling for the appropriate weather.
Eating & drinking enough.
Throwing away off food.
Able to shower/change clothes/wash clothes.
Preparing meals safely (getting dinners delivered can be easier).
Going out/locking door/taking keys.
The clothing may sound trivial, but my Mum will keep a fleecy jacket on even when 30+ degrees & overheat. She also will be out in winter without a thicker coat or hat & be turning blue. The cold is not too big an issue here, but for snowy places, I suppose hyperthermia is a real risk.
For me, the two big ones that mean supervision is required all the time are are using the appliances/stove incorrectly & leaving the house unsafely.
Your Mother is so blessed to have you in this along side her.
You will get lots more answers in a couple of hours; it's the middle of the night here on the East Coast.
Depending on where you are located, your local Area Agency on Aging may not be doing assessments right now, but get mom on the waiting list.
Alz.org is also an awesome source of information and advice.
There is a term for the condition your mom has (not recognizing that she has cognitive deficits). Its called anosognosia. Google it.
Also, Teepa Snow has amazing YouTube videos on how to talk to and deal with folks with dementia. Worth looking at.
She most likely doesn’t acknowledge her dementia because of the dementia itself. You and she will probably be more comfortable if you simplify conversations with her and focus as little as possible on the reasons why she thinks as she does.
Hugs and hopes that you will find the information you need to keep her safe and comfortable.
Your original question mentioned finances.
You said on another thread that Mom's doctor has given you a letter stating that she can no longer handle her finances.
Do you hold Power of Attorney for your mother? Does somebody else hold it?