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So here's what's critical: TOMORROW, schedule the reinterview with the intake person for the earliest date they can give it to you, and start the process going again. Since they already know you, maybe it will go faster than you think. Keep all appointments, fill out all forms, cooperate.
I'm not going to scold you about this, but, Scott, if you had started and followed through on this process when you first knew you would have to move, you might already be in your new home. Don't let the chance slip away again.
Keep on keeping on. It WILL get better.
Well, there is enough time to at least get the process moving forward! You can start with meeting with the intake person for the housing program and then follow the process through while you live in a homeless shelter. I think this is your last option which you can act on now if you chose to.
Frankly, I'm tired of reading excuses and feel like you have been your own worse enemy. This discussion started back on November 27th of 2014. You could have met with the intake person then, gotten approved, met with the housing contractor and be in the 1 to 2 months of waiting for a vacancy now. However, that is not possible to change, just like it is not possible to change that you have a mental illness, your mother had a stroke three months ago, your brother has taken over her care, and you will be out of the apartment within a month. Good luck!
Your caseworker can offer you help. If you refuse that help, or you refuse to meet the basic conditions attached to it, what do you expect? Is she supposed to beg you to let her help you? Wishing you good luck is pretty much the only thing you're allowing her to do.
Nobody wants to see you in a homeless shelter except, just possibly, you. And there is no need. Call your caseworker on Monday morning and ask her to guide you through the process. Follow her lead and you won't even have to think too hard about it. Just get yourself somewhere safe and take it from there.
I'm sending you my best wishes for this new year. I can't bring myself to celebrate it, exactly, because I'm in a pretty lousy place too, not feeling there's a lot to look forward to that I would want to happen if I were given any choice about it. But fact is, we don't get given any choice. So we might just as well make the best of what's in front of us. I'm sorry if I sound grumpy - I am grumpy, but not with you.
This is a hard time, but with or without us it is still a new year, a new calendar, and a good time to make another start. Here we go again! At least be curious about where you might be this time next year, and pick the least unattractive way forward.
I'm going to trust that you're not saying that you're going to a homeless shelter because it will make your brother feel sorry for you, or because you think it would serve him right if something bad happened to you there.
The only person you would be hurting would be you.
I know it's not the 'new start' you ever imagined for 2015, but it is, what it is. I'm praying for you tonight to find the strength within you to get the help you need. This can be a very good year for you. Stop the Craigslist search and allow the services in place to help. They have your best interests in mind.
Make sure that you get at least 8 hours of sleep a night, that's key for anyone, especially someone under stress. Good luck, my friend, let us know how you're getting on.
She is quite lucky that your brother has the ability to manage her care. Of course he has to move her close to where he lives. In an emergency, close family has to be close by to get to the hospital. Family members that get to the hospital need to be able to supply medical history, answer questions about medications and the like.
Right now, Scott, you could be striving to be able to be that family member. You need to be taking steps (baby steps) to get there. Mental health housing, meds, therapy and a better job. With support, you ll get there.
During the 17 years you lived with your mom, did you think that situation was going to last forever? Did your mom encourage you to get mental help? Did your brother encourage you to work and not be supported by mom's SS?