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Dose she seem content? Agitated? Depressed? Sad? If she is in good spirits, I'm not sure increasing her activity level is necessary/appropriate. If she is sad or frightened or having other issues try to think about how to solve those issues and she may want to increase activities on her own.
Dementia progresses. It gets worse. You can't count on her being the same as she was 6 months ago, and she'll be different 6 months from now. I think the most important thing is if she seems comfortable and content.
I think I would just check her blood work, her vitals and her weight. Does she take an antidepressant or seemed depressed? Did she recently become incontinent? Have you checked her feet, toenails? Does she seem to wince or show signs of pain when you check her over? Any medication changes? Constipation? Did she have a problem with any of the others during an activity?
Perhaps a round of PT would get her going again. Would her doctor order it for her?
She sounds very sweet. Since she used to be very active I would be a little concerned too.
Activities can also require dexterity, which sometimes people lose not only b/c of age but b/c of arthritis and other issues.
I think that an activity which produces something for someone in need could be very appealing. It engages a basic need to help others.
And I still believe that music is transcendent and is perhaps the best activity ever.
Pick up the book “Being Mortal” by Atul Gawande.
It helps put things in perspective.
I don't have dementia and when too much is going on around me, wow, I can feel, overwhelmed, anxious and aggrivated.
If she doesn't seem sad, I'd let her be. At least let her make this small choice for herself. So much has been taken away now mentally, physically, intellectually and emotionally that it may make you feel bad for her. Maybe it's only sad to us, she might be just fine alone.
My Dad was in Assisted Living and was on the shy side, thus he refused if someone wanted him to join an activity unless it was music related. Dad's private caregiver [only mornings] tried to drag him to activities without much luck. Dad did enjoy sitting in the sun rooms and watching the outside world, and occasionally would chat with someone.
Dad was happy as a clam to sit in his recliner reading the daily newspaper and watching the 24 hour local cable news. But it was get out of his way when it was time for breakfast, lunch, and dinner where he had other gentlemen of his age to talk.
Is your mom new to assisted living? If so, maybe she just doesn't exactly know how to participate. No one likes being the new person. Maybe you can visit a few times when there are scheduled activities and you and your mom can join in. Your mom might feel less vulnerable if you're there and she can see that the activities are pleasant and that the people are nice. But I think with dementia, your mom might have to be led to the activities as opposed to keeping track of when and where they are and getting there on her own. This is where the activities people come in. I'd bet they'd be happy to encourage your mom to join them.