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I would use that as a starting point. Call the pharmacist or prescribing doctor and see what you can do to stop the drug supply. Force her to have to see the doctor to get a new RX.
Hopefully once you get her in the door with the doctor they can address your concerns.
Make sure you create a document outlining your concerns for the doctor and hopefully you can deliver to the office ahead of time.
1- The patient is a suicidal risk
2- The patient is a homicidal risk
3- The patient is in such mental condition, that he/she can not take care of his/her basic physical needs, that will risk his/her life ( eating, dressing adequately according to the weather, exhibiting reckless behavior, etc.).
More specifically this is the procedure:
A police officer or paramedic does not have the authority to take her to a psychiatric facility if she refuses, unless accompanied by the appropriate paper work. This paper work consists of two specially printed forms, "Petition for an emergency psychiatric evaluation". One is filled and signed by a relative or friend and the other by a social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist. Those forms can be found in any Mental Health clinic, psychiatric facility or private office of a mental health professional. The patient has to be examined by a mental health provider who will fill up and sign one of the forms. There is no other way, unless the patient commits a crime and is arrested. This procedure is complicated in order to protect the rights of the patient.
After the patient is taken to a psychiatric facility, she will be evaluated within 24 hours. If the evaluation confirms that the patient is dangerous, she will be taken before a judge who may commit her to the facility for treatment until she is no longer dangerous. If the initial psychiatric evaluation finds her to be non-dangerous, she will be released. Remember, only if the patient is dangerous he or she can be committed. Being psychotic is not enough.
IMO he has to call 911 on her. You might be able to help by springing for the hotel room for him and you, with you meeting the authorities/paramedics saying that you removed the 80-yo-dad because the mom is a danger to him and gravely disabled to herself. That should get her a psych admit (5150/Baker Act) at least. From there, you probably know how to get the ball rolling.
I worked as a receptionist in a Memory Care community before the plague broke out. I met many husbands who had no other choice but to place their wives in our care due to circumstances like your father is in. Dementia reaches a point, often, where placement is the only answer, and that's okay. Your dad can go visit her (once she settles in) frequently and become her husband again instead of her exhausted/burned out 24/7 caregiver which is TOO MUCH for a man his age. It often works out well for both parties as each can rest well at night and the dementia patient can get 24/7 care that's very much needed, including showers and brief changes.
Wishing you and dad the best of luck and sending you a hug and prayer for peace with whatever you decide to do.