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They cannot force you to receive her into your home. And the best way to work through what is needed for placement is now, with the help of hospital social services.
I am wishing you good luck. Let the nurses know TODAY that you need social services, that you cannot accept your mother. The fact you didn't tell the doctor who spoke with you that this is the case is going to make this much more difficult, but not impossible.
Just keep saying no, and make it clear that if an ambulance comes to the home you will refuse entry into the home.
They may go with some rehab to put it off a bit, just keep requesting social services and a way to work toward her placement.
Find out if admission to a psychiatric unit-- perhaps there is a "senior behavioral unit" nearby--so that different meds can be trialed.
At least within my family, when wandering and violence set in (my sweet uncle was beating my poor aunt black and blue so he could get the keys to go take a walk on the highway), placement in a locked Memory Care unit was the only option. He thrived there!
Steadfastly refuse any suggestions that your mom should return home. It's an "unsafe discharge". And make sure she is admitted and not "under observation".
LBD in particular is difficult as it is one of the dementia's that is more prone to violence. Added to that it is one that medications are difficult. Many of the drugs that are given to quell anxiety in other dementia's can not be given to people with LBD, The results can be fatal.
This in not anyone's fault, it is the disease.
Talk to the Doctor, talk to the Social Worker. Explain that it is not safe for her to be discharged to home.
It is not safe for your dad, or other caregiver, and it may not be safe for mom if she is trying to "search" for this child or the person "harming" her.
Finding a facility that will accept someone that has been violent can be a challenge but once the correct medication is found, the correct dose she should do well. Most facilities will want 90 days without incident. (some more, some less) The Social Worker may be able to help in this search.
You may have to do this for your mother. Get the doctor on board with this decision. Then tell the social worker at the hospital there is no way she can come home there is no help for her there it will put her life in danger.
In short, nobody can "make you" take her home if you feel threatened,
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