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If hiding keys doesn’t work, find a place to hide the car.
Stop “being disturbed”. Her actions, if not her words, say “I need help”. You’re working to provide help, by placing her, so you are doing your job.
Forget everything she SAYS, and make the environment safe for her AND FOR YOU.
A deteriorating brain means ANTICIPATE ANYTHING. Her filter is in the process of failing.
Continue with your planning for her. You’re on the right track.
1. Disable the car. That means pulling spark plug wires or disconnecting the battery if she wouldn't know how to recognize a disconnected battery.
2. Call 911 - today. You have a child to protect.
Much of dementia caregiving comes from recognizing a problem long after it becomes a problem. You have people here giving you the gift of a crystal ball to see the future. Listen to them, and act upon their advice.
You posted on July 1 with pretty much the same problem. Yes this in normal but...you should not allow it to go on. She needs Meds. She needs to be placed where she can be cared for by people who can handle her outbursts. What if she had set her clothes on fire in your home. This woman needs to be placed under a Psychic watch. She is a danger to you and your family.
Just skimmed thru your last post. This woman has escalated in the last month. Burning her clothes in your backyard should show you husband that now its time for Mom to go to a NH. Ifvshe has no money, he can apply for medicaid. I so hope you do not leave this woman alone. She is dangerous to you and your family. The fire should have been when you called 911 and had her removed and the Baker Act implemented. This is when they do a 72 hr Psyhic eval. Tell them that she cannot return to your home even if meds are introduced. You fear for ur life and the lives of your family.
All abnormal behavior is 'normal' when advanced dementia is at play, but this is over the top with what your MIL is doing. She needs medical intervention right away to see what other organic issues are contributing to her behavior, if any. She needs medication and placement also, as soon as humanly possible. But her erratic behavior has to be stabilized before she's placed, or she'll be asked to leave the Memory Care ALF she's placed at. All the residents have to be safe in the facility or the resident causing the ruckus will be asked to leave, or to be properly medicated before returning back there. That's why you need to remedy this situation before you place her. And before something dreadful happens in your home; your safety is very important also. And MILs state of mind should not be so agitated either, not with modern medicine available to her.
Wishing you the best of luck with a very serious situation.
Call 911 today. And I rarely say this, but if you have to fib about physical assault happening today, then do it, whatever you have to to get this dangerous person out of your house with a baby in it.
It's not like she's happy like this, she's out of her mind with psychotic misery. Help her and save yourself at the same time.
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