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When you went to see Dad was he being well cared for?
To me, when his children were apparently not terribly active in his life, and in his care, while all of this water went flowing under the bridge, that is the crucial question.
You seem not so much concerned about Dad's well being as you are about his assets.
If your father is receiving kind, gentle, loving care, this may be the best investment he has ever made. If he is receiving kind and gentle care, you might just feel relieved to go on with your life as you were, knowing he is being loved, and knowing he doesn't remember you any longer.
If your father is being abused in your opinion, do contact APS at once.
A person in the late stages of Alzheimer's has no idea WHAT is going on! Which is why he didn't know who you were, and why the scammer he married was able to take such horrible advantage of him! I think you know the answers to your own questions.
If anyone 'betrayed' you, it certainly wasn't your father suffering from Alzheimer's, but the scammer her married.
Contact the police first, then an attorney.
Best of luck.
If you have documentation that he's in late-stage Alzheimer's, I think you could convince a judge that he was not competent to marry (a contractual agreement), assign power of attorney, nor agree to the expenditures and selling his farmland.
The money is probably gone, but you should try to save your dad now. Consult an elder attorney immediately.
For the money and the assets. That is why someone would marry a person with Alzheimer's or dementia.
When my father was in his 80's he took up with a woman in her early 60's. She was an indigent, mentally ill alcoholic with a long police record in several states. My father didn't have dementia and was in unbelievably good health. He wasn't rich, but he'd done well enough for himself. My whole family knew exactly what the relationship was for and saw right through it. Nothing anyone could do and we all lived nearby.
Then very suddenly he had a stroke. That's when POA kicks in and he kept these things in my name.
I put her in the street but she'd already done plenty of damage.
There was nothing you could have done. I would suggest that you see an elder law attorney and tell him what happened. You may be able to recover some of your father's estate at least, and possibly break the will if there is any documentation of Alzheimer's. Even if there isn't, it's worth a try and you should talk to a lawyer.
If you weren't aware of his condition, you might have a tough time proving he was not in his right mind when signing over POA and legal docs. Which by law states by sound mind, otherwise it's fraud.
Speak with a estate attorney and see if there's recourse you can take as this is not as uncommon as you might think.
Good luck.
I went to an attorney when my husband of 38 years was in early stages of dementia to find out right way to handle our assets and be sure he was taken care of in case something happened to me.
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