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Depending in how much your loved one actually enjoys bathing, you can make it quick or more luxurious. Just be sure to thoroughly clean the person because they are often unable to do a thorough cleaning. I dry mom off and use body lotion on her, powder her, and dress her. She thinks she is at a spa sometimes! Sometimes I will light candles and put on soft classical music and have a vase of pretty flowers in the room to enhance that feeling for her.
Feediing her and giving her medicine and helping her change clothes was no problem just the WATER thing and of course at times she'd run me off saying she didn't know who I was. Anyway we have recently put her in nursing home and she looks for me and asks for me day and night and I know she'll jump me to take her home as soon as she'd see me - she'll know me then for sure!!!! Last time she was in rehab after breaking hip - every time I went in, she either, cried, screamed horrible things at me or would turn her head away from me in anger. I wanna go home over and over is what she said also WHILE AT HOME - she wants her Mom and sister who has been deceased and the house she was raised in burned and it was rebuilt and my nephew lives in it, and it's so sad. I tell her I'll take her next day or that night and she calms down a little.
I guess I should also mention that my wife is small (under 100 lbs) and is fairly cheerful and easy to work with.
You didn't say if your loved one has dementia but no matter, when bathing the elderly you must consider keeping them warm, helping to preserve their modesty and taking good care of the skin. In nursing homes, clients are given a total bath only three days a week. Washing at other times is what we used to call a "Kittie Bath" - just bathing with a soft, warm rag and a little waterless soap those areas that need cleaning such as underarms and bottom area. A no-rinse cleanser you can buy is Septi-Soft it has a soybean-oil base for keeping skin hydrated. As you age your skin dries out and soaping it every day can bring on more problems if not done with caution. Water temperature should be that which is most comfortable to the person - I start my mom out with water that feels just right to me and she tells me whether it needs to be adjusted.
Here is a synopsis of an article from the American Journal of Nursing on technique:
Most nurses and CNAs are taught to start a bath at the head and work down because it's assumed that the head and face are cleaner than other areas. But for people with dementia, water dripping in the face and having the head wet are generally the most upsetting parts of the bath; this causes distress at the beginning of the bath. One alternative is to wash the face and hair at the end of the bath or at another time. Another is to use no-rinse products that can shorten and simplify bathing. Infection-control concerns can be addressed by the caregiver washing her hands and using a fresh, clean cloth after cleansing a part of the body that might cause contamination. Although many have been taught to cover the person during a shower or tub bath, few actually do this, possibly leaving the person cold and feeling exposed, embarrassed, and without dignity. Covering the person with a towel and washing beneath it alleviates this distress. These changes are simple, practical, and do not increase the length of bathing time.
Washing time should be that which is sufficient to get the job done; no long showers or baths; long enough to make sure the person is well rinsed and moisturized.