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I also agree, write things down in a folder. Or on a white board. Put it where a new aide will see it. When asked for help, tell the aides you are off duty.
You need to find another position. When u can move, call APS and tell them you are not being paid and are leaving a vulnerable adult. Explaining that the only aides being paid are there a short time.
Do NOT feel guilty.
You ARE being taken advantage of and if you continue doing what you are doing you will continue to be taken advantage of.
Do you have a job outside the home? What income are you living on?
Where do you get funds for the things you need, clothing etc?
Do you want to stay there? Or move on?
Second, start a journal with the time of day, care you provided, and how long it takes. Everything you are doing outside of the "overnight" is completely uncompensated, so document what's happening.
Third, start looking around for a new living situation. Have someplace to go before opening your next round of discussions. Maybe apply to be a care giver with the service so you can be appropriately compensated for being needed.
Fourth, add up that uncompensated time you are actually spending on Mom's care. If son is paying the service $320 for 10 hours a week, then he needs to pay you a similar rate for at least the hours of uncompensated care you are providing.
Fifth, stop providing _any_ care when the son is not working. Let him pick up the care giving load and/or pay the service for any respite hours he gets.
Sixth, tell him he pays you, at least based on the actual care giving effort (which is still a break for him since he pays the service whether they provide care during the scheduled time or not) each week, or you will be moving out in 10-14 days. Make sure you keep your journal in your procession. Allow the son to look at copies only. If he doesn't pay you, then move on!
Are you living in the mother's house? One possible motivation for having the service in on his work days is to document he provided needed care to keep his mother out of LTC so he can acquire the house after her death.