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Well, she has stated in no uncertain terms she is NOT moving back home, so its her decision and maybe the right one
I feel like some of us with elderly parents are worrying more about them than they do themselves. I note a lot seem like, they have weathered tough times throughout their lives with the depression, wars, etc, and this is another one. Eventually their time will come one way or another.
Thanks for all the good input.
My moms health (almost ninety, but like someone twenty years younger in many ways) seems good.
Her current place is independent living, so not a lot of help available for her. There is a connected building for assisted living, but that is not where she is, so shes not getting much help there anyway.
I agree she would not use the opportunity to be back home to clean the house up to sell, that is just a dream, the main reason would be to get her out of the apartment where despite their good efforts, people can still leave, circulate, and come back, even though they are asking people not to go to shopping malls, large events, etc.
For this to be worth doing from a quarantine point of view, you would have to set her up with supplies enough to make her entirely self-sufficient. You don't visit, nobody visits, she sits tight and waits out the peak.
Is she fully independent with activities of daily living? Really fully, I mean?
I fear for my clients, I really do. Many of them are over 80, and of course many of them have 'underlying conditions' or we wouldn't be there, and rather too many of them have nothing to do all day but watch the news - with the result that they practically have garlic and crucifix to hand when they see us coming.
I explained to a couple yesterday that I am disinfecting my indoor shoes between calls, using hand gel before and after, washing my hands on arrival (counting one elephant, two elephants, three elephants... up to twenty elephants), putting on gloves and apron then, and taking my temperature every morning before I set off on my rounds. "Yes, YOU are," they replied, in duet. I didn't follow through on that.
Besides, I think I am going to give up. Why?
I can resist herd mentality, but only up to a point. I know I am following best practice guidelines. My coworkers know that I am a PITA who shows them up and makes trouble. And after all what are we doing for our clients, brain surgery? - no, we're helping them get their suppers, change into their nightwear, get into bed. Even my kindly Shift Leader is ready to throttle me: she can't go off duty until we have all checked in as safely home. Half past eleven at night, the day before yesterday, that was. It's all very well for me to think what's an extra three minutes, but three x eight or nine, on a shift that's already overrunning because we're short of staff - it's not okay to volunteer somebody else for unpaid overtime.
It's also *pointless*. When there's a situation where unless EVERYBODY does it, (including, for example, postmen - like what, hand gel before and after every single address?) whatever you're doing is simply not going to help, then you might as well devote your energies to other tactics.
How is your mother's general health?
For starters, what does she think??
Keep her where she is. Call on your own schedule.