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Maybe you could check with local churches about help getting repairs or modifications to house. OR, check with social workers--they usually have resource lists for all kinds of helps--I got lists like that from our local Welfare Office.
Some of the welfare offices might list those resource people and agencies online.
It will not stand alone, as far as I have been told.
It has to be documented what meds she is on at the time, whether [as you know as an RN] those meds are usually taken but she's off them temporarily so her mind can clear, and some kind of statement by a Doc about her ability to think cohesively at least while off the meds that affect her mind.
OR, you can find an unscrupulous lawyer like my Gma's brother in law did, who assisted him to make a new will that was so tight, none could change a thing. He wrote in clauses that said if anyone contested it in the slightest, the entire thing would go to the Boy Scouts of America, for instance. So family got token bits, her home was liquidated even though she wanted Dad to have it [her only "child"], the brother in law got a lion's share, and the rest, ultimately, went to the Boy Scouts.
Sucks. But that is what happens sometimes.
Make a tight paper trail! You must have witnesses who can attest to your having to quit a good job to care for your Mom, and, who will sign statements [in ADVANCE!] that you do all the caregiving.
Your State should have some laws that protect your interests, too...might try checking into those.
Surprisingly, if income levels are right, the welfare department might be helpful guidance.
Or, if you have some kind s Area Agency on Aging.
Prayers for you!
The State was not able to restore the original estate, because by then, even that brother in law had died, so there were none of the original people who put that newer will together, alive to talk about it. The State Bar Assoc could only go by what was in writing in the newer will. A HUGE travesty.
But at least, my step parent got the little Executor's stipend, which was better than nothing. Everything else was lost.
Take care of your paper trails!
As Cat said, if he has been on Medicaid (state assistance), the state can try to recoup some of the costs they paid for by MERP (Medicaid Estate Recovery Program) by placing a claim or lien on any real property he owned.
If he left you the house and stated so in his will, then whomever is named the exectutor in the will goes and opens probate to settle his estate as per the will. House becomes yours and the property transferred to you via a hearing in probate. If his estate is small and there is no real debt and all there is, is the house, then in many states you can do a "muniment of title" to get the house transferred to you. This is super simple, quick and inexpensive.
If there is no will, then he is considered to have died "intestate" and how his state does property division depends on your state law. This can be quite a snake pit to deal with and requires getting serious legal to do it and prove you are the heir.
So if no will, then he needs to do one asap and leave you the house. This needs to be done by a real attorney who does estate law and probate and paid for by your dad. If you pay for and benefit, others could come back and accuse you of producing a coerced will. Bad.
Some people have a whole fear of probate or just feel no need to do it. imho that is a real mistake because you will not have a true clear legal title to the property and truly own it. I can tell you many sad stories of families who lived in their long dead auntie house's and never did probate to transfer property, then when Hurricane Katrina happened and auntie's house was destroyed, they were denied insurance claim as they legally didn't own it, or could not get rebuilding funds as they didn't own it or had to get every possible heir to sign off on the property in order to get clear title to get financing to rebuild; or there was a worthless nephew who was a lineal heir who either wanted to get paid off in cash right now to give up his 10% of the property OR better yet worthless nephew had all kinds of judgements and the property got liens on them due to worthless OR even best of all is when worthless went and applied for a grant or FEMA funds based on his partial ownership and spent all on himself. Clear property ownership very important. Get the will done!
If your dad is not involved in state assistance and he owns his home. He can leave it to whoever he wants.
What's your situation?