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I don't know when it became expected that adult children were supposed to devote the rest of their lives to their parents. I would never do that to my kids.
Margaret McKen is about the only person on this thread who's speaking sense. She is correct. The OP wanted to know how to get rid of the dogs. Not how to become a biblical scholar and expert in the prevention of canine incontinence.
@BurntOutWoman
Why did you let your mother bring her dogs in the first place? Here's how you handle this. Tell mom that the dogs are going to a shelter or her and her dogs can all go live under a god**mned brigde. Then find a shelter who will take the dogs and maybe a care facility who will take her.
And also, the OP really needed to write an entire post just to figure out "how to get rid of dogs? It's pretty basic if that's all she wanted!
She expects to be waited on? Not. She should do everything for herself and her naughty dogs that she possible can. And then do some things towards to the household as well. Tell her that things need to change ASAP. She can be lazy plenty of the time but needs to do much better with taking care of things.
The dogs sound utterly disgusting and there's no way I could tolerate this! Does your mom take them out at all? If not, it's time for her to learn. Or have her to pay to put in a fenced in area and she can put them out in there every couple of hours, as needed. She'll also need to pay to have the carpet replaced. Are they crate trained? If so, they need to be in their crates a lot more than they are.
You don't want them in your kitchen? Put up some gates.
She seriously doesn't even feed and water them? Well, I think she needs to start or else those little critters are going to suffer. She's got to step up and take some responsibility!
Not fair to your kids (or healthy!) for them to live in such a disgusting situation.
Why did you take Mama in?
My mom would keep a pet LOOOOOONG past it's sell by date. I don't think we ever had a dog that WASN'T pooping and peeing all over the house. She brought an ancient dog to her apartment that was part of YBs' home. Within a month that animal had pretty much destroyed the carpet.
Along with the aging comes the tooth loss, the hair loss, the blindness, and arthritis, just like people. Mom couldn't clean up, so it fell to SIL who was NOT a happy camper about this.
My YB works in the medical field and he would get morphine or whatever and put the poor dogs out of their misery. And in case you think I am cold--these animals had zero QOL. He always told mom they'd just died in their sleep.
YB pulled up the 25 yo carpet in mom's apartment and the subfloor had been soaked in almost every corner. It made me sick to think mom lived in that!
After the last old, sick dog had passed, mom got a bird, which was fine, but then she took in 3 more 'sick' birds who filled up the small cage, and carried mites, moths and poop and flying feathers all over her place. Due to simple neglect, 2 of these birds died. 2 are still alive and we cannot find a new home for them.
Animals that cannot be cared for humanely and properly should be re-homed or put down (just b/c they can eat and poop doesn't mean they are healthy!)
You could even be reported for having animal waste in the same area as food prep is done. IDK, but it's worth thinking about.
Not all older pets(and people) are like you described,
Both my parents had/have dogs that use the floor because they were never taught differently.
Feeding the dogs on a schedule and then putting them out can really help this situation. My dads dog had 2 accidents or potty breaks in my home, 1st one was the 1st day and the 2nd time the next day. I fed her with my dog and put her out. She learned quickly to go outside and to ask me when she had to go. A little dance in front of me, my dad thought she was playing and she went right back to using the floor at his place. So sad that people don't pay attention to the cues the animals learn to give us when they have a need.
I have a saying, two legs or four, if you use my floor as a toilet you CAN'T live in my home. PERIOD!
This is completely up to you.
Pets are bred for profit and sold to people who think they will be enjoyable company. They are not human. Unless you turn our whole society on it’s head, animals get very different treatment from humans. Most people eat them. If you stop that, you turn farming on its head, change the entire structure of rural communities, and alter the landscape fundamentally.
‘Being kind’ to animals doesn’t mean putting them into diapers. Certainly not according to the Bible. And there are many many people who think that the right to choose a peaceful death is the kindness they really want.
Animals may not be human but they are sentiment beings who are here to teach not just as playthings for selfish humans. They are more in tune to the spiritual world than the majority of people on this planet.
Does she need dog poop, clean smelly floors? Rhetorical question.
Anyway, neither here nor there. I love animals, is my point. But there is a big difference between pets and humans. When animals lose control of their bowels and get incontinent both ways, we have to consider putting them down. B/c that incontinence is usually due to disease that can't be treated, at least in the case of my Kirby who had an immune system disease that caused him to pee everywhere uncontrollably. My mother was incontinent too, but we couldn't 'put her down' but put her up in a $6700 per month Memory Care ALF until God chose to take her home.
Yes, this thread has gotten silly and I stayed out of the discussion (pertaining to the issue the OP posted) until now, when I felt I had something equally silly to add to it.
What you 'should do' OP is reclaim your own home now. Have mom pay to replace the carpets/floors her dogs decimated, and then either rehome these dogs or put them down if they are old and sickly and cannot be cured of what ails them. I had to do that twice and with God's help, I will NEVER have to do it again b/c it's a horrible thing to do and it hurts more than anyone should ever have to bear. Your mother is not capable of properly caring for these 3 dogs, so she should not have them, especially in YOUR home. If your mother is lazy and expects to be waited on hand and foot, then it's probably time for you to rehome HER, too, to an ALF or somewhere where she can pay others to deal with her laziness. You've done enough for her AND for her 3 dogs.
And as for Margaret, sheesh, I'd say you're 'stirring the pot' something fierce with what you say about ridding your farm of pesty cats. Here in Colorado, we trap annoying animals in cages too. But then they're driven up to the mountains and released, rather than shot or asphyxiated with exhaust fumes :(
Good luck to you.