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Mask around anybody with something respiratory going on - cough, sniffle, sneeze... and better to mask around people with a fever.
Become religious - about hygiene. Wash hands anytime you use the restroom, eat, or touch a possibly contaminated surface, or need to touch your face. Also make sure to change clothes (wash the "old ones"), keep outdoor shoes outside the house, and bathe after contact with public.
Clean the world - I imagine that everything surface I am not sure about has a thin layer of poop on it. I wear gloves to avoid casual contact with "public and possibly contaminated" surfaces. I disinfect surfaces with a mixture of rubbing alcohol and vinegar. My daughters prefer to use bleach disinfecting wipes. Less germs = less disease.
Mental health helpers - lots of sunshine, fresh air, develop hobbies/pastimes, gather a tribe of positive, helpful people (do it online during COVID-19), and remember to build in "time off" from your work/responsibilities (1 hour daily and several hours 1 day a week).
my parents made a big move last October states away, the original plan was for me to come watch my mom in April so my father could finish the old house affairs and take a break. All that work of getting outside care, doctors appointments, dads social life, totally blows up all to h*ll. Felt like two steps forward and being pushed back a mile.
I know it will come back but sure was a blow to the wellness plan.
On the days when I know I'm short on patience and long on fatigue, I caution my husband that I'm cranky and crabby so be advised. It helps him to know that if I snap at him, it's not about him. Doesn't make it okay, but at least he's forewarned. LOL
Most of all, please don't beat yourself up. You are doing the best that you can during an extremely stressful time. See if you can give yourself credit for what you are doing for your mom. And try showing yourself some compassion and kindness. You're worth it.
Your feelings of frustrations are completely normal and you’re not alone. I had my mom for 15 years in my home. I gave up my job. I missed out on lots of activities as well, due to caring for mom.
It is devastating watching a parent deteriorate. My mom has Parkinson’s disease. I wish I had known about Council on Aging sooner than I did. I didn’t have much help through their organization but it was something and I was grateful. Do you have any outside help?
Still, after so many years I burned out. I had to step away. My mom is now receiving hospice care and lives with a sibling. I did more than my share of caregiving.
I hear your frustration and it doesn’t mean that we don’t care or love our parents but it’s tough, really tough. I would suggest to take some time off, away from your mom to get some rest. Hire someone to stay with mom.
Don’t hesitate to speak to someone about your feelings. I did that and received guidance that I truly needed. I appreciated having an objective perspective on my situation.
Do you wish to continue to care for your mom at home or are you interested in a facility at some point? That would free up time for you to either return to work or have time for yourself.
There are lots of things to consider. Do you have any specific questions?
Wishing you all the best.