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About 6 months later, my dad brought home a treat--a banana cream pie, his favorite. After dinner, he took the box out of the refrigerator and saw that he had put in in upside-down. He sat down at the kitchen table and cried.
He really wept! He was a big man, and his sobs filled the little kitchen. I had never seen my father cry.
I whispered to my mom "why is Daddy crying about the pie?"
She said "he's not crying about the pie; he's crying because he's sad about Nana."
That's how I know that real men cry.
We don't grieve in front of each other...but every now and again we message each other about it.
Sometimes I get a random call or a message "hey how are you doing? I was thinking about Mum today" and we talk about her a little.
We rather talk about it on the phone than cry in front of each other. It probably seems silly, but hey (shrugs) ...lol.
Grief MUST be felt if we are to move forward in a healthy manner. Period. The sooner we deal with it the sooner it will become easier as time goes by.
And not to scare you, but grief never goes away completely, it just gets easier to deal with over time.
So let the grief hit you when it does and let those tears flow, as they are healing for the soul.
God bless you.
Time does heal the greatest of our pain but, the firsts are always the hardest. Get through the firsts - first birthday, first mother's day, first year, all the firsts before you start worrying about your grief. It is normal to have these moments that you have like a realization that they are really gone and the hurt feels so fresh.I lost my mom, quite suddenly, February of this year and I understand what you are going through. Great big warm hug!I pray that you are given strength to carry on with the path you are on and that you can start remembering the good times, the laughter and love that brings you smiles instead of tears. She was blessed to have you as her son.
My mom has been gone for nearly 6 years now; I started crying the other day when I heard one of her favorite songs from the musical Carousel.
Embracing the love and the grief is the only way, in my opinion, of moving on.
Real men cry.
Love and comfort to you. ((((Hugs))))
How did this happen ? Ok. Well, my birthday recently passed. So I was thinking of what I am thankful for in the past year of life. I thought "I am thankful for my wife...and I thought of my wedding" and I wrote that down.
Then I thought "I am thankful that my Mom saw my wedding before she died..." then I saw water dripping onto the paper...and I realized I had started crying....
I hate this feeling.
I can see why you share a beautiful life with your wife.
By the way, happy belated birthday to you.
I remember you. My mom had Parkinson’s disease too. She died in 2021. It has only been 7 months since you lost your mom.
It will become easier but you will have your moments of grief. I do.
Cherish your memories. Go ahead and cry. Tears can be healing. It’s better than burying your emotions. Trust me, I tried that and it doesn’t work very well.
You have a sweet soul. Your mother knew how much you loved her. She understands your tears but she wouldn’t want you to grieve forever.
I was thinking about my mom earlier today too and I got misty eyed. There are times when I cry my eyes out too. It’s okay.
You have accomplished so much. I know that your mom would be so proud of you.
We are here to listen. Sometimes, we have a heavy heart and we need to talk. We have all been there.
Please don’t feel as if you are letting yourself down in any way. You are experiencing normal human emotions.
Wishing you peace as you continue to mourn the loss of your dear mother.
Take care.
Nowadays, you'll see more men athletes (like tough football players) and actors interviewed and openly discuss going thru depressions, expressing their emotions - and how it helped their overall well being and healing - rather than bottling their emotions all inside.
Just know that your mom is still with you in spirit - and I hope you always feel her presence with you. Wishing you my very best for peace and continued healing ~
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