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Things can also get lost under the beds. One time I couldn't find my Mom's eyeglasses, I looked everywhere. One day I brought in a small flashlight and looked under her mechanical bed, and lo the eyeglasses were under the bed in an area leaning against one of the metal bases. Because of all the mechanical stuff under that bed, it wouldn't be like housekeeping could wash the floor and find the glasses. Same with dressers, hampers, clothes pocket, etc.
As for retaliation, I really don't think an Assisted Living, nursing home, or long-term-care facility employees have time to even think about revenge.
You asked why this should be ok. It's not ok. It's illegal and unethical and immoral. It's stealing from a vulnerable adult and it stinks. You've reported it and that's all you can really do. The items are gone. I know it hurts. It hurts to be the victim and it hurts to know your mom's special belongings are gone. I don't think it's the other residents who steal. Theft is sneaky and slick and has to be done quickly and at the right time and most residents of a long term care facility just aren't smooth enough to pull it off. They're conspicuous if they wander in and out of other people's rooms. Staff however move in and out of the rooms constantly. They can do a quick scan 3 or 4 times before they decide there's something there worth stealing. The next time they're in the room it takes all of 3 seconds to grab something. It's almost like a culture of theft because it's so pervasive in every facility.
I'm sorry about your mom's things.
I'm not sure what purpose the tabs serve except to indicate that the tank is full. For all the time I've used them, I've never seen that removing them causes any harm.
Are these tabs what are being removed? If so, I wonder if someone's just preparing them for use, or not thinking that removing them could cause issues.
Are there any other issues of retaliation?
Unfortunately, theft does occur. My aunt was upset by things that were stolen from her.
I don't condone theft nor do I feel that saying nothing and letting it go is the way to proceed. But, realistically, and sadly, I'm not sure how much can be done when people are living in a literal group type situation.
Is there anything in your mother's room where she can hide her valuables? Something like a locked box used to store valuable papers?
Another way to handle this with the administration is to ask them what can be done to ensure that no more of your mother's possessions are stolen. Turn the tables on them and ask them to come up with solutions.