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You can't do anything about inheriting. And this has been mentioned on the forum before, grandchildren inheriting from grandparents. IMO, grandchildren are not entitled to an inheritance. My girls are beneficiaries in our Wills if we are both gone. If they want to give any of that money to their kids, thats up to them. Or, you have a trickle down effect. If one of the children dies, their share of the estate is split among the grands. But I don't feel a grandchild should expect anything from a grandparents estate.
I don't know if that is even a wish? But if so, what is the barrier?
When I visit my sister we discuss favorites TV shows, her outings that week, favorites meals. I don't discuss any of the 'elephants' in the room as they are really just in my head: my thoughts that her living alone is precarious & that I feel her enablers should change direction etc.
Is that your barrier? Past & future thoughts big as elephants preventing the present?
There is a huge difference to my way of thinking and your mother may also not understand what you mean (I think you mean the latter).
I seem to recall that mom gave your brother POA. If that is so, then you should be submitting receipts to him for reimbursement from mom's funds.
This sort of thing is never easy. But as a nurse I witnessed family trauma over they dying bodies of my family; it is something I have never completely got over. Death and illness is one thing, but that sort of thing is quite another. I would be at peace in so far as you are able, reassure yourself you did everything you could. Wish them well, and well away from you.
I think were I you the one question I would ask is "Is this an attempt to get Mom to take sides", because you are too grown up for that, and that won't happen in any meaningful way. If I loved my Mom I would send cards and letters and bouquets of love, and not really speak about the bro. Just would be "let's don't go there". But if there isn't not a lot of a relationship with the Mom OR the bro I would, as I said, wish them well, and well away.