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My mom is a former teacher. I received written message earlier this week her caretaker wouldn’t allow her family to pick her up. The family she was talking about was brothers and sisters two of whom are deceased. She was looking at an old picture.
If your sister does have dementia keep in mind it’s a progressive disease and manifests differently in people.
And, besides, if she lives with another person why is she constantly calling you for assistance?
I'd never say that concerns about dementia are the least of anyone's worries, but it certainly does sound as if your sister has more immediate problems, no?
One reason that I am intrigued by this type of thing is that I have only witnessed it on line. (NOT on this site,) This is for people who claim to have had Alzheimers resulting in dementia for many years. These are regarding people who claim they have ADVANCED dementia to the point that they cannot live alone. They are disabled due to dementia, according to them, and they are totally dependent on others for care, HOWEVER, they are able to write long descriptions of their day, their week, their month, with details about what people said, what they did, what the doctors said, what they ate, what their dog did, etc. They use perfect grammar and punctuation. They even report that much of the family alleges that they DO NOT have dementia. So, I don't understand how a person with advanced dementia has full recall of their life's events and can convey in writing so perfectly events from years ago and events from the previous day or week. I've NEVER seen even one person in real life who has dementia be able to write much more than their name, once they have advanced to a stage where they cannot attend to their own needs. So, I'm baffled. Why would someone claim to have dementia if they don't? Boggles the mind. If anyone finds out anything would you post it or PM me? I'd like to understand it more.
Any history of mental illness or psychological difficulties in your sister's background?
Luz had this problem of saying one thing and meaning another. We did work it out.
But get her checked out completely.
planning
measuring
co-ordinating
texting
are all very different from one another, plus they all take place in different contexts and have different levels of importance attached to them. It's not at all impossible that your sister can sit and focus on a screen and - with the automatic prompts and no interruptions - process words, but go completely to pieces when she needs to measure 5mls of medicine and mix it into Mo' Better Bones or whatever it's called.
But I agree with others that you need more than suspicions on your side and moments of panic or absence on hers to diagnose dementia. Has there been any medical opinion about it?
If you’ve been helping her out for a long while, she may have become accustomed to having you do everything for her. Same for the texting. You’re there and you have become her “go-to”. If you respond to her complaining texts, she just continues. Does she have anything else in her life? Attending a Senior Center? A book club? A crafting group? A “Ladies Who Lunch” group? Something to occupy her mind and give her another outlet for her thoughts. If she lives alone and doesn’t have much to do, texting is her outlet. You can choose not to respond, too.
If you think she may have dementia, the only one who can tell for sure is a doctor, with an evaluation. This may be a good thing for her because it would allow you to plan for her future.