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Another common problem as people age is double vision. Most eye doctors simply recommend an eyepatch, which is an awful idea. Find someone who knows what binasal occlusion is and how to use it correctly. Sometimes a week prism correction is needed.
If dad never had cataracts removed, I guarantee you he has cataracts that are disrupting his vision. Depending on his overall health, you might want to have those addressed or leave them alone.
Does dad have prescription glasses? Or is he supposed to have them and doesn’t wear them? Many older people who have had cataracts removed think they are supposed to be seeing perfectly without glasses, but that just isn’t so.
There are many other conditions that are more prevalent as we age and can be easily treated. If dad has a regular eye doctor start there. If that doctor can’t answer your questions get a referral to a specialist who can.
As a note of interest to care givers, I recently meet an eye surgeon who made home visits to his non ambulatory patients.
It takes muscles to keep the eyes open. So if dad is tired he just may find it easier to keep his eyes closed.
You also mention that dad has vision problems. If his vision has become worse it may be difficult to process what he is seeing. (things like double vision, blurry vision, dark spots, a lot of "floaters" these can all be annoying)
And I guess I have to ask you this...have you asked him why he is keeping his eyes closed?
If he is due for a doctor visit you might want to mention this. Many doctor offices can do a basic eye exam.
Good luck to you.
Have you asked him why he’s closing his eyes ? Is he aware he’s doing it ? Does he use any eye drops for dry eyes ?
If this elder is unable to adequately explain I would see an eye doc for a short check up.
There can be about 50 reasons for this. I myself have profound differing vision in my eyes. My right eye had a vitreous separation with scaring that made it's site profoundly different from a very healthy almost young at 81 left eye. Because they are so different, in some close up work or reading I will often automatically close my right eye.
So speak with your elder first. And ask his eye doc second. Good luck.
....sigh.....
So I would tell her "open your eyes". If I had a nickel for every time that I told her to open her eyes - over the course of about 2 years - I would have a lot of nickels.
Eventually I gave up and now she keeps her eyes closed 24/7 except for the few seconds that I pry them open to apply her glaucoma drops.
I hope that your dad can be convinced to keep his eyes open before he loses the ability.
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