By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or
[email protected] to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our
Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our
Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Long overdue my friend. Please keep us posted and good luck with all the final preparations. She will be safe, secure and cared for by professionals. No more dark cloud down the road filling your days with dread. I hope she settles in quickly but more than anything I hope you and hubby enjoy the freedoms you haven't had in a long time.
You sound like you are about one stage behind me with your mom. It is very difficult being an only as there is nobody to help. I know my husband gets tired of it all. I get consumed and that takes me away from my own family. It is not fair to anyone, but I can't seem to break away mentally. Best of luck to you.
https://www.dementia.org.au/about-dementia/types-of-dementia/alcohol-related-dementia
Personality changes are common with alcoholic dementia, so that's probably what you're seeing. Stomach ulcers can be tricky; alcohol aggravates them something awful, and sometimes, a person won't want to eat solid food, which is why she likes Ensure drinks.
Anyway, it sounds like your mother is going to need Assisted Living or Memory Care now, or in the very near future, so look into a facility that has a continuum of care. I would NOT get her in the habit of staying with you 80% of the time or that will turn into 100% of the time in short order. As an only child, don't let guilt or misguided obligation force you into taking her in. In cases of dementia, it's generally way MORE than what an ordinary person (like you) can handle at home alone.
Get her to the doctor for a full work up and see what her GP recommends moving forward. Another cognizance test is in order as well, to see where she's at NOW vs. where she was at when originally diagnosed with MCI.
Best of luck!
Time to back off and let the trained professionals deal with her. She has tested them for days, they have prevailed, she is 94 and is an alcoholic.
The next time your mom wants to go to the hospital I suggest taking her and push for an admission so she can get a thorough evaluation. If she is no longer capable of living alone then alternate plans will have to be made. That doesn't mean she has to move in with you, it means alternate plans will have to be made for her. Has there been any discussion about where mom will go when she can no longer live alone? Does your mom have resources for assisted living?
While there let the doctor know about the alcohol use so they can medicate her for any withdrawal.