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If he falls call 911, social worker will come in hospital to talk to you and grandfather. They will advise and assess his mobility, get PT and OT to assess his condo. He might need bars in shower, toilet, removing rugs etc.
It is possible he cannot live independently.
Get home care involved which is free for everybody in Canada.
They have social worker or case workers and if I am not mistaken LTC arranged thru them cost less $2700 per month. They are tremendously helpful.
They arrange services such as day programs, showers if needed, help with exercises, respite, transportation for appointments and many others.
But you deserve your own life.
I agree wholeheartedly with the advice to not move in with him or move him in with you. You will become his 24/7 caregiver and a lot in your life will come to a screeching halt. The next time he falls, do not pick him up. Call 911 and have him transported to the hospital. Then make sure the discharge team knows he's an unsafe discharge. Find a facility for him and have him transitioned directly into it (he might go to "rehab" first but make sure he has a facility to go to after that. It's hard... I'm sorry for this distressing situation.
Here in Ohio with a program that can help pay for being in one of these residences some ( if not all) try to go for the maximum occupancy which is 16 people ( more people more money). Own room with that many folks? forget about it, ( more like shared rooms with shared bathrooms. Imagine sharing a bathroom with 5 or more people). Home cooked meals? They should, since they'll have to pay their share for food, unless they get SNAP, then all their benefits are pulled together to feed the whole home.
What does his doctor say?
In the US I called the County Area of Aging for a social worker to assess my mother , I could not get Mom to leave her home to go to AL. They were willing to remove her from the home and bring her to an AL that I had chosen .
Can you call a social worker there to help ?
The next time grandpa falls don’t get him up . Call 911 or whatever it is in Canada to get an ambulance to take grandpa to the hospital , then tell them you can’t care for him anymore and he needs to go to a facility. Do not pick him up from the hospital . Do not take him home , even if they tell you it’s temporary . You tell the hospital that it’s an “ unsafe discharge “ for him to go home. Use those words , because they will try to make you take him home . Tell them he lives alone , falls all the time and you can’t take care of him . Do not tell them you live with him or stay with him . Tell them you have to go back to the US to go back to work .
I have a feeling she said this to discourage me...
I am just struggling with the decision.
The alternative is for me to move in with him, and I don't know what good that would do at the end of the day.